Ok so I have been a viewer of this forum for awhile now and lots of great advice on here. I want to share my divorce and how it proceeded.. I have been separated for 5 years and married for 5 years, my ex and I split on relative good terms at the time and I was facing some extreme financial issues that warranted a bankruptcy.
Instead of fighting and going to court we made an agreement that I would pay child support following the child support tables and in addition i agreed to pay her spousal support at approx mid range for 5 years. We made our own agreement (likely somewhat stupidly) and in addition she would stay at the matrimonial home deducting the costs from the support money until shes in a position to put it in her name.
Access to the kids was very open and I took them every single weekend. On paper it was at least every other weekend. I just couldn't do 50/50 for my work hours. Fast forward 4 years later and things went REALLY sour. Updated the agreement to put the house in her name and I was going to take a small portion of the equity. That fell through.. she then was behaving differently and was never home leaving all the kids to her now ex bf.
A few months past.. agreed to put a lien on the house so she could find a new place as she has had more kids and not enough room in the house.. she spent the money elsewhere. I then find out she has a big addiction problem. So I finally decided to take her to court to force a sale of the house and go for custody of my kids.
Things went even worse for her and she has a few criminal charges. She never took part of the court process and It went to an uncontested trial. She didnt show up for that either and the orders were made for me getting custody and house selling and ending spousal in a few months (like the original agreement stated)
She now threatens to try to get the decision pushed aside and thinks she can now fight me in court really just around the house and trying to get the original agreement (which states she would get more money.. I was trying to be nice for my kids sake at the time as I didnt know about her addiction) my lawyer said it's possible if she acts fast to get the decisions pushed aside but she has to have a good reason to do so and needs to act fast. It has been 2 weeks since the trial.. do you think she has any chance ?
I'm moving to sell the house but I likely have to get cops to allow myself and the realtor in etc.. shes losing her mind but all she cares about is money.. not the kids.. CAS is involved with the other kids and she only has supervised visits along with my kids.
I'm likely over thinking things but I just want to move on at this point and concentrate on my kids. Theres no way she could get custody at this point but she keeps on telling me she has a mortgage approval and appraisal done following the old agreement and shes going to fight it.. I said to her it needs to follow the court order division now.. all i get is threats and lies.
Instead of fighting and going to court we made an agreement that I would pay child support following the child support tables and in addition i agreed to pay her spousal support at approx mid range for 5 years. We made our own agreement (likely somewhat stupidly) and in addition she would stay at the matrimonial home deducting the costs from the support money until shes in a position to put it in her name.
Access to the kids was very open and I took them every single weekend. On paper it was at least every other weekend. I just couldn't do 50/50 for my work hours. Fast forward 4 years later and things went REALLY sour. Updated the agreement to put the house in her name and I was going to take a small portion of the equity. That fell through.. she then was behaving differently and was never home leaving all the kids to her now ex bf.
A few months past.. agreed to put a lien on the house so she could find a new place as she has had more kids and not enough room in the house.. she spent the money elsewhere. I then find out she has a big addiction problem. So I finally decided to take her to court to force a sale of the house and go for custody of my kids.
Things went even worse for her and she has a few criminal charges. She never took part of the court process and It went to an uncontested trial. She didnt show up for that either and the orders were made for me getting custody and house selling and ending spousal in a few months (like the original agreement stated)
She now threatens to try to get the decision pushed aside and thinks she can now fight me in court really just around the house and trying to get the original agreement (which states she would get more money.. I was trying to be nice for my kids sake at the time as I didnt know about her addiction) my lawyer said it's possible if she acts fast to get the decisions pushed aside but she has to have a good reason to do so and needs to act fast. It has been 2 weeks since the trial.. do you think she has any chance ?
I'm moving to sell the house but I likely have to get cops to allow myself and the realtor in etc.. shes losing her mind but all she cares about is money.. not the kids.. CAS is involved with the other kids and she only has supervised visits along with my kids.
I'm likely over thinking things but I just want to move on at this point and concentrate on my kids. Theres no way she could get custody at this point but she keeps on telling me she has a mortgage approval and appraisal done following the old agreement and shes going to fight it.. I said to her it needs to follow the court order division now.. all i get is threats and lies.
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