Hi
I am new here....but I have been reading along for a short time.
I have also tried the Internet in general to find anything to help me with my situation but haven't had any luck with any one in a similar situation.
I have been separated from a 10 yr marriage for 1 year now. I have 3 kids under age 7 and am starting the court process after not having any luck with drafting a separation agreement.
The issue I have is this. Yes from day one I have made a higher income than my ex. Through the relationship he had his own business but it never really "showed" to be profitable. He just made enough money to call his for his own use mostly. I work at a family business and have for 27 years.I do not own it .
Through everything I struggled with getting him to apply himself and earn more. I also had a difficult time getting him to help with anything at the house . Half way through the marriage he shut down his business and opened another non-profitable business with a partner, now earning even less than before. At this same time I was having our 3rd child.
I had the bigger income ($65K) and I also took care of everything in relation to the house and children. I was and still am a full time employee and mom.
So now......he has no intentions of paying cs and if I pursue it says hes going all the way in pursuit of spousal support. The kids reside with me and I am their sole supporter and always will be. He sees them alternate weekends.(10% of the time) Btw he works at his one business 16 hrs a week and the other approx 6-8 days a month.
He is physically fit and totally capable of getting employment but just doesnt feel he should have to. He is waiting for a big payout because he says I make a substantial wage and will eventually inherit the business. He has even said that he waited 10 years for this.
I am stressing out and am not sure how long I can go on fighting. I am a believer that all this money being wasted in court and with lawyers is money that can be going towards the kids and their future. He doesn't care. He is borrowing money to fight me.
Sorry this is so long...I am just trying to be precise.
I cannot find very much info on the net where a wife is to pay any spousal support when she in fact has the kids and is providing for them. He was never a stay at home day and rarely was home for the kids.
Of course he wants 1/2 the equity of the matrimonial home that we lived in together for 2.5 years.....the other 8 years of our marriage we lived rent-free in my parents rental.
I am 43 and he is 42.
Any suggestions or reflections would be appreciated. Thanks for reading.
I am new here....but I have been reading along for a short time.
I have also tried the Internet in general to find anything to help me with my situation but haven't had any luck with any one in a similar situation.
I have been separated from a 10 yr marriage for 1 year now. I have 3 kids under age 7 and am starting the court process after not having any luck with drafting a separation agreement.
The issue I have is this. Yes from day one I have made a higher income than my ex. Through the relationship he had his own business but it never really "showed" to be profitable. He just made enough money to call his for his own use mostly. I work at a family business and have for 27 years.I do not own it .
Through everything I struggled with getting him to apply himself and earn more. I also had a difficult time getting him to help with anything at the house . Half way through the marriage he shut down his business and opened another non-profitable business with a partner, now earning even less than before. At this same time I was having our 3rd child.
I had the bigger income ($65K) and I also took care of everything in relation to the house and children. I was and still am a full time employee and mom.
So now......he has no intentions of paying cs and if I pursue it says hes going all the way in pursuit of spousal support. The kids reside with me and I am their sole supporter and always will be. He sees them alternate weekends.(10% of the time) Btw he works at his one business 16 hrs a week and the other approx 6-8 days a month.
He is physically fit and totally capable of getting employment but just doesnt feel he should have to. He is waiting for a big payout because he says I make a substantial wage and will eventually inherit the business. He has even said that he waited 10 years for this.
I am stressing out and am not sure how long I can go on fighting. I am a believer that all this money being wasted in court and with lawyers is money that can be going towards the kids and their future. He doesn't care. He is borrowing money to fight me.
Sorry this is so long...I am just trying to be precise.
I cannot find very much info on the net where a wife is to pay any spousal support when she in fact has the kids and is providing for them. He was never a stay at home day and rarely was home for the kids.
Of course he wants 1/2 the equity of the matrimonial home that we lived in together for 2.5 years.....the other 8 years of our marriage we lived rent-free in my parents rental.
I am 43 and he is 42.
Any suggestions or reflections would be appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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