Hi, Never done anything like this before... never been in this situation before either!!
Six years ago he moved in with me in my home. We have no joint assets bank accounts other than a boat in both of our names for insurance purposes but I paid for. He was a productive healthy individual and we have known eah other for over 30 years. His personality started changing three years into the relationship. Long story short, he has been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder along with frontal brain damage. The verbal and physical abuse has been ongoing. The Dr suggested that involving the police would not be beneficial for him and I learned how to aviod it until he passed out. The hallucinations and just plain bizzare behavior has been outrageous. The unfortunate part is because of the brain damage he has NO MEMORY of his behavoir at all. All of this has been documented and letters were sent to the Dr's over the past 18 months as each of his behaviors worsened. Of course he cannot work. His CPP has been slow in comming (1 year). Letters have been sent by Doctors and to my local MP for assistance regarding this. I have been supporting him financially .
I have endured a tremendous amount of damage to my mind & emotions. I am no longer capable or qualified to care for him. I went to see a lawyer. He wrote him a letter to vacate in 30 days. telling him he has no right to property. Also I recently found out that he has been driving the cars , both im my company name, without a drivers licence.(he let it expire 4 years ago) The laywer included in the letter that if he drove the cars anymore that this would be considered theft and the authorities would be contacted.
It is not his fault that he is ill, not is it mine. I have spent hours filling out housing subsidy and mental health service applications to get him a place to live. He is not ill enough for the hospital YET! I am in no position financially to pay for his seperate living and expenses. I do believe I have done everything I can to try and help him. His family are afraid I will be dropping him off at their doorstep and are becoming quite agressive with me. They have agreed to give him some financial assistance as will I. He is frightend and not able to care for himself in areas of medications and meals. I NEED MY LIFE BACK.
My questions are; If the govt agencies have not responded in the next 30 days and I drop him off at a family member what recourse does he have?
How do I get a court order?
The boat is for sale, when it is sold I told him he could have the proceeds net of the expenses for the past three years, is this okay?
Currently he is penniless and about to become homeless.
I certainly can reconcile this in my head and am in need of healing, the trouble is the reconcilliation in my heart!
I welcome any insight to these circumstances. Thank you
Karen
Six years ago he moved in with me in my home. We have no joint assets bank accounts other than a boat in both of our names for insurance purposes but I paid for. He was a productive healthy individual and we have known eah other for over 30 years. His personality started changing three years into the relationship. Long story short, he has been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder along with frontal brain damage. The verbal and physical abuse has been ongoing. The Dr suggested that involving the police would not be beneficial for him and I learned how to aviod it until he passed out. The hallucinations and just plain bizzare behavior has been outrageous. The unfortunate part is because of the brain damage he has NO MEMORY of his behavoir at all. All of this has been documented and letters were sent to the Dr's over the past 18 months as each of his behaviors worsened. Of course he cannot work. His CPP has been slow in comming (1 year). Letters have been sent by Doctors and to my local MP for assistance regarding this. I have been supporting him financially .
I have endured a tremendous amount of damage to my mind & emotions. I am no longer capable or qualified to care for him. I went to see a lawyer. He wrote him a letter to vacate in 30 days. telling him he has no right to property. Also I recently found out that he has been driving the cars , both im my company name, without a drivers licence.(he let it expire 4 years ago) The laywer included in the letter that if he drove the cars anymore that this would be considered theft and the authorities would be contacted.
It is not his fault that he is ill, not is it mine. I have spent hours filling out housing subsidy and mental health service applications to get him a place to live. He is not ill enough for the hospital YET! I am in no position financially to pay for his seperate living and expenses. I do believe I have done everything I can to try and help him. His family are afraid I will be dropping him off at their doorstep and are becoming quite agressive with me. They have agreed to give him some financial assistance as will I. He is frightend and not able to care for himself in areas of medications and meals. I NEED MY LIFE BACK.
My questions are; If the govt agencies have not responded in the next 30 days and I drop him off at a family member what recourse does he have?
How do I get a court order?
The boat is for sale, when it is sold I told him he could have the proceeds net of the expenses for the past three years, is this okay?
Currently he is penniless and about to become homeless.
I certainly can reconcile this in my head and am in need of healing, the trouble is the reconcilliation in my heart!
I welcome any insight to these circumstances. Thank you
Karen
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