My ex and I have been separated for a few years. We co-parent equally and have gotten along fairly well.
From the beginning, we have both attended our children's special events and have been fine together.
However, Last year, both he and I divorced and acquired new spouses. This didn't seem to change things though, as everyone from both families still attended events and seemed to get along fine.
Now they are suddenly trying to say that it is too "upsetting" for the children, and their family to have everyone together at events.
I've talked with the children and that is not the picture I get. They love it when both families come to see them doing something and they don't talk about it being uncomfortable at all. My hunch is that it is just uncomfortable for his new wife.
In lieu of this, they have asked us not to attend events that fall on "their" time, even though we have a parenting plan that states clearly that both parents can attend all lessons, events and school functions.
I personally though, don't want to start missing important event's in my childrens lives, simply because his wife is incomfortable.
What is to be done in this situation? Any advice? She we just not go? Should we tell them work it out themselves, as we don't have any problems being with them?
Also, any ideas why she would be so uncomfortable? She's mentioned something about my children coming to me and not her and her feeling bad - but she's an adult and I would expect her to understand their situation.
Any insight would be appreciated from those in similar situations.
From the beginning, we have both attended our children's special events and have been fine together.
However, Last year, both he and I divorced and acquired new spouses. This didn't seem to change things though, as everyone from both families still attended events and seemed to get along fine.
Now they are suddenly trying to say that it is too "upsetting" for the children, and their family to have everyone together at events.
I've talked with the children and that is not the picture I get. They love it when both families come to see them doing something and they don't talk about it being uncomfortable at all. My hunch is that it is just uncomfortable for his new wife.
In lieu of this, they have asked us not to attend events that fall on "their" time, even though we have a parenting plan that states clearly that both parents can attend all lessons, events and school functions.
I personally though, don't want to start missing important event's in my childrens lives, simply because his wife is incomfortable.
What is to be done in this situation? Any advice? She we just not go? Should we tell them work it out themselves, as we don't have any problems being with them?
Also, any ideas why she would be so uncomfortable? She's mentioned something about my children coming to me and not her and her feeling bad - but she's an adult and I would expect her to understand their situation.
Any insight would be appreciated from those in similar situations.
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