Hello,
I have a good question for you. I field an application to finally get full custody of my child - on paper. I have had full custody for 2 years now (but continued to include the ex on some outings and such with our child during that period). I left my ex 2 years ago. Right after that, we went before a mediator and we both signed a document indicating that I would have full custody and that my ex would pay an amount (albeit small) as child support (although my ex made more money than I did, I did not want to push the issue because my ex is VERY sensitive about departing with any amounts of money). Well, these funds did not go for child support, but instead, my ex used them to pay less than their fair share of daycare costs. (I know that child support and daycare do not come out of the same Child support "bank", but my ex is stubborn). Regardless, let's fast forward to two years later (now). I applied for custody, and my ex's response yesterday was that they said they believed that we were in a relationship the entire time until they received a copy of my application. In their reply, they even stated that we had "intimate relations". Holy cow! My lawyer tells me that this is some attempt at trying to avoid having to pay any retro support (2 years worth). Now, this person hasn't been to my home in more than a year, never came to any of my family functions (birthday's, bbq's, and so on), and if we were together, it was never without our child being there. Actually I had a one year relationship with someone during that period, and then I developed a problem whereby - for now - any intimate relations would be painful until surgery (soon). Furthermore, I registered on an online dating site twice during this two year period ( I have the receipts for this too). So, does my ex have a leg to stand on? Child support is Child support and we have been living apart for 2 years, so that amount is still owning correct?
Your infinite wisdom on this matter would be greatly appreciated.
I have a good question for you. I field an application to finally get full custody of my child - on paper. I have had full custody for 2 years now (but continued to include the ex on some outings and such with our child during that period). I left my ex 2 years ago. Right after that, we went before a mediator and we both signed a document indicating that I would have full custody and that my ex would pay an amount (albeit small) as child support (although my ex made more money than I did, I did not want to push the issue because my ex is VERY sensitive about departing with any amounts of money). Well, these funds did not go for child support, but instead, my ex used them to pay less than their fair share of daycare costs. (I know that child support and daycare do not come out of the same Child support "bank", but my ex is stubborn). Regardless, let's fast forward to two years later (now). I applied for custody, and my ex's response yesterday was that they said they believed that we were in a relationship the entire time until they received a copy of my application. In their reply, they even stated that we had "intimate relations". Holy cow! My lawyer tells me that this is some attempt at trying to avoid having to pay any retro support (2 years worth). Now, this person hasn't been to my home in more than a year, never came to any of my family functions (birthday's, bbq's, and so on), and if we were together, it was never without our child being there. Actually I had a one year relationship with someone during that period, and then I developed a problem whereby - for now - any intimate relations would be painful until surgery (soon). Furthermore, I registered on an online dating site twice during this two year period ( I have the receipts for this too). So, does my ex have a leg to stand on? Child support is Child support and we have been living apart for 2 years, so that amount is still owning correct?
Your infinite wisdom on this matter would be greatly appreciated.
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