hi, i hope everyone is staying safe...
my situation is very much high conflict, i just need guidance either replying here or DM me
there have been ongoing issues with access namely where the ex brings my daughter and doesn't facilitate her struggle with exiting the car. My daughter is 8, my son has no issue. Over the spring and summer the ex would conflate access with the fact that I am in arrears for spousal only based on an interim motion from feb 2019. Covid has decimated my income. Prior to this, we verified that my true income was much lower anyways. But we have not had discovery and courts were shut down. that is a separate issue. there is evidence of alienation tactics (fielding framework 14/17 +) and my daughter believes her mom and grandma are demigods.
The issue was bad enough where we had an emergency motion and were successful in determining that she was not in compliance with the access order and if her behaviour continued, I could get exclusive access.
Nothing changed and I have proof positive that she disregarded that judges order and her family were helping cover it up.
to the more pressing issue:
on xmas day, my kids independently give me pieces of a a story where my daughter was assaulted my her maternal grandma by strangulation. I asked the ex about it and she told me to stop making things up. I took Ella to see a doctor who she told the story to. There were no marks though. CAS and OPP became involved.
Personally, I think CAS botched the investigation because they interviewed the kids and her side after the kids were back with her. Fortunately, CAS sees the malignment of my daughter and is reopening the case. There has been quite a lot more, but I am trying to be brief. (trying)
So last week, my daughter sends me a text message asking why I want her grandmother to be in jail. I also found texts where her and her grandmother are discussing "dad wanting to put grandma in jail"..at the handover last friday, in front of the kids she refused to get out of the car and demanded i pay her money...the kids heard it..its audible on my cameras...the next day my duaghter even asked if i paid her mom and that I have to give her half of what I earn because she doesn't have a job
To me this...this crosses the line of child abuse and deliberate tactics...cas sees it as such
My current lawyer did not react strongly to that above statement and that it is just "concerning" we have been talking about doing contempt for 8 months but she remains hesitant as she does not think a judge will switch access and doesn't seem to want to push any of the access issues as hard as I want.
We did have a custody assessor in the summer but he died. We tried LCAP but her side is refusing. So we are basically at a standstill...from everyone's experience in high conflict, would you have found your lawyer to be more aggressive and pusing the issue harder when an 8 year old is being deliberately put into this...
I am just not seeing an aggressive plan, but also don't know how this situation should be handled..i am going to be getting a second opinion
thx guys
my situation is very much high conflict, i just need guidance either replying here or DM me
there have been ongoing issues with access namely where the ex brings my daughter and doesn't facilitate her struggle with exiting the car. My daughter is 8, my son has no issue. Over the spring and summer the ex would conflate access with the fact that I am in arrears for spousal only based on an interim motion from feb 2019. Covid has decimated my income. Prior to this, we verified that my true income was much lower anyways. But we have not had discovery and courts were shut down. that is a separate issue. there is evidence of alienation tactics (fielding framework 14/17 +) and my daughter believes her mom and grandma are demigods.
The issue was bad enough where we had an emergency motion and were successful in determining that she was not in compliance with the access order and if her behaviour continued, I could get exclusive access.
Nothing changed and I have proof positive that she disregarded that judges order and her family were helping cover it up.
to the more pressing issue:
on xmas day, my kids independently give me pieces of a a story where my daughter was assaulted my her maternal grandma by strangulation. I asked the ex about it and she told me to stop making things up. I took Ella to see a doctor who she told the story to. There were no marks though. CAS and OPP became involved.
Personally, I think CAS botched the investigation because they interviewed the kids and her side after the kids were back with her. Fortunately, CAS sees the malignment of my daughter and is reopening the case. There has been quite a lot more, but I am trying to be brief. (trying)
So last week, my daughter sends me a text message asking why I want her grandmother to be in jail. I also found texts where her and her grandmother are discussing "dad wanting to put grandma in jail"..at the handover last friday, in front of the kids she refused to get out of the car and demanded i pay her money...the kids heard it..its audible on my cameras...the next day my duaghter even asked if i paid her mom and that I have to give her half of what I earn because she doesn't have a job
To me this...this crosses the line of child abuse and deliberate tactics...cas sees it as such
My current lawyer did not react strongly to that above statement and that it is just "concerning" we have been talking about doing contempt for 8 months but she remains hesitant as she does not think a judge will switch access and doesn't seem to want to push any of the access issues as hard as I want.
We did have a custody assessor in the summer but he died. We tried LCAP but her side is refusing. So we are basically at a standstill...from everyone's experience in high conflict, would you have found your lawyer to be more aggressive and pusing the issue harder when an 8 year old is being deliberately put into this...
I am just not seeing an aggressive plan, but also don't know how this situation should be handled..i am going to be getting a second opinion
thx guys
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