Hi all,
I was with my ex for seven years and we lived together in Ontario for near 4 years, from 2005 to 2009. He was a PhD student in the four years, and he always told me he was under a lot of pressure from study, so i did all the houseword to support him. Last year he graduated and got a job in Alberta. Soon after that, he wanted to break up with me and told me he found life meaningless and he would be like the guy who killed a person and cut off the head on bus. This made me think he had depression, and i tried to help with it. He told me to leave him alone and kept on telling me what a painful life he was having. I decided to leave him alone, but I asked him for the $10000 he promised when we broke up. I am also a PhD student and I will have no income after Aug. He refused it, and I realized it was not about depression, and I found out that he got married three months after breaking up with me. I was shocked, so I told his wife what happended between me and him. His wife cursed him so badly, and told me they two got divorced. Then he told me that since I broke his marriage, he and me were even and he didn't need to pay me. I knew they two were lying, so i told him directly, now he is willing to sign a separation angreement with me and give me the $10000. I am pissed off now and I try to see if I can get a better deal by applying for spousal support.
My questions are:
1) Based on our situation, is it likely that the judge will order him to pay me spousal support?
2) I will have zero income after Aug. His basic annual income is $60000, and he also have some other income. He told me his net basic income is $3500 per month. Is it reasonable for me to ask for $1500 per month? His wife seems to have some part time job and I am not sure about her income.
3) He got some student loan when we were together, with only is name on it. With his loan, he only earned about $10000 than me in the four years, and he spent more than me. Now he pays $500 each month for his loan. Am I responsible for his loan? Will the judge consider this when deciding? We bought a car together, which was sold $10000, he gave it to me as gift, now he denies it. I already used up the $10000 for selling the car. Can half of the car be accounted as his future support?
4) Today he told me that if the court orders him to pay me, he would move back to China and I couldn't get a penny. Can i show the court his email and ask for a yearly payment or a lump sum payment?
5) Since he is in Alberta now, what will be the procedure if i apply for spousal support in Ontario? Will the case be transfered to Alberta? Should he come here or I go there? How long probably will the whole process take? If I file the claim in Mar and the court orders him to pay in Sept, will he also need to pay for the period between Mar to Sept? I am worried that the process will take too long and I will already have a job and don't need his support when the court issues the support order.
6) I have been suffering from serious psariosis. For the whole year, he pretended to have depression and told me he was in pain, while in fact he was happy in another relationship, which made me worried about him and suffered a lot of pain myself. My psariosis got much worse. I may quit my PhD study to get my disease treated in China. He also threatened to kill me and my family. Can I sue him for this?
Your reply will be greatly appreciated!
I was with my ex for seven years and we lived together in Ontario for near 4 years, from 2005 to 2009. He was a PhD student in the four years, and he always told me he was under a lot of pressure from study, so i did all the houseword to support him. Last year he graduated and got a job in Alberta. Soon after that, he wanted to break up with me and told me he found life meaningless and he would be like the guy who killed a person and cut off the head on bus. This made me think he had depression, and i tried to help with it. He told me to leave him alone and kept on telling me what a painful life he was having. I decided to leave him alone, but I asked him for the $10000 he promised when we broke up. I am also a PhD student and I will have no income after Aug. He refused it, and I realized it was not about depression, and I found out that he got married three months after breaking up with me. I was shocked, so I told his wife what happended between me and him. His wife cursed him so badly, and told me they two got divorced. Then he told me that since I broke his marriage, he and me were even and he didn't need to pay me. I knew they two were lying, so i told him directly, now he is willing to sign a separation angreement with me and give me the $10000. I am pissed off now and I try to see if I can get a better deal by applying for spousal support.
My questions are:
1) Based on our situation, is it likely that the judge will order him to pay me spousal support?
2) I will have zero income after Aug. His basic annual income is $60000, and he also have some other income. He told me his net basic income is $3500 per month. Is it reasonable for me to ask for $1500 per month? His wife seems to have some part time job and I am not sure about her income.
3) He got some student loan when we were together, with only is name on it. With his loan, he only earned about $10000 than me in the four years, and he spent more than me. Now he pays $500 each month for his loan. Am I responsible for his loan? Will the judge consider this when deciding? We bought a car together, which was sold $10000, he gave it to me as gift, now he denies it. I already used up the $10000 for selling the car. Can half of the car be accounted as his future support?
4) Today he told me that if the court orders him to pay me, he would move back to China and I couldn't get a penny. Can i show the court his email and ask for a yearly payment or a lump sum payment?
5) Since he is in Alberta now, what will be the procedure if i apply for spousal support in Ontario? Will the case be transfered to Alberta? Should he come here or I go there? How long probably will the whole process take? If I file the claim in Mar and the court orders him to pay in Sept, will he also need to pay for the period between Mar to Sept? I am worried that the process will take too long and I will already have a job and don't need his support when the court issues the support order.
6) I have been suffering from serious psariosis. For the whole year, he pretended to have depression and told me he was in pain, while in fact he was happy in another relationship, which made me worried about him and suffered a lot of pain myself. My psariosis got much worse. I may quit my PhD study to get my disease treated in China. He also threatened to kill me and my family. Can I sue him for this?
Your reply will be greatly appreciated!
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