Hi:
This post is very similar to the recent one entitled "Child Support" I just read through, but my situation is a little different.
My ex and I had a reasonably amicable split about 5 years ago. No spousal support but I gave her the house and she has a pretty good job as well. We had the child support agreement worked out as follows "father continues to pay child support until child is no longer enrolled in full time education or no longer living with the mother".
Fine, I have been doing my part. My daughter graduated from college (quebec side) last May, and we agreed that child support was done. She is returning to university in the fall. She is still living with the mother, although travelling abroad.
The agreement had me paying the majority of the school costs, in addition I would guess to the child support.
This is my beef:... the child support covers her costs for lodging my daughter and enough left over to cover her portion of the education. In addition she is charging my daughter for the remainder of the school costs. I believe she will be probably making a few extra $'s every month while our daughter goes to school. I still have to support a house with a bedroom for her as she is often with me.
I do NOT mind paying a reasonable amount. In fact, I would be absolutely ok with this arrangement if my ex was broke or very poor. She has a great job, I make a bit more than she does, but still... I feel this is unfair and have given her notice I am not going to go along with this come next Fall.
Do I have even a "toe" to stand on? One thing I do have going for me is I am no longer residing in Quebec so I believe our agreement might be nill at this point.
Obviously I have discussed all this with my ex in hopes of avoiding a big mess, but she is expecting the $$$, and running to lawyers as I am writing this.
Any advice out there? Please don't jump all over me, I am not a deadbeat Dad, have always done my part, just don't believe the system can be so unbalanced.
This post is very similar to the recent one entitled "Child Support" I just read through, but my situation is a little different.
My ex and I had a reasonably amicable split about 5 years ago. No spousal support but I gave her the house and she has a pretty good job as well. We had the child support agreement worked out as follows "father continues to pay child support until child is no longer enrolled in full time education or no longer living with the mother".
Fine, I have been doing my part. My daughter graduated from college (quebec side) last May, and we agreed that child support was done. She is returning to university in the fall. She is still living with the mother, although travelling abroad.
The agreement had me paying the majority of the school costs, in addition I would guess to the child support.
This is my beef:... the child support covers her costs for lodging my daughter and enough left over to cover her portion of the education. In addition she is charging my daughter for the remainder of the school costs. I believe she will be probably making a few extra $'s every month while our daughter goes to school. I still have to support a house with a bedroom for her as she is often with me.
I do NOT mind paying a reasonable amount. In fact, I would be absolutely ok with this arrangement if my ex was broke or very poor. She has a great job, I make a bit more than she does, but still... I feel this is unfair and have given her notice I am not going to go along with this come next Fall.
Do I have even a "toe" to stand on? One thing I do have going for me is I am no longer residing in Quebec so I believe our agreement might be nill at this point.
Obviously I have discussed all this with my ex in hopes of avoiding a big mess, but she is expecting the $$$, and running to lawyers as I am writing this.
Any advice out there? Please don't jump all over me, I am not a deadbeat Dad, have always done my part, just don't believe the system can be so unbalanced.
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