Originally posted by Pursuinghappiness
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I prefer the way it is today. People still choose marriage although they're often choosing it later in life to focus on university and career...which is a good thing.
But more importantly, no one is forced to stay in a bad, unhappy marriage. That should never happen.
CS simply guarantees that once a marriage is over, that the kids are still financially secure with both parents. Marriages end, parenting doesn't.
I get paid offset CS for my youngest child...its not a huge amount of money because I have a career but I decide how I spend it on my kid. My ex never agreed with what I bought or saved for my children even before we divorced and wouldn't agree now. That never stopped from me from spending my money how I see fit. He's the type of guy that believes that kids should pay their own tuition because he did...I disagree. Now that we're divorced, his opinion only applies to his money...not to mine or to the money that the court designates to support our child.
My kids are happier since we've divorced because no kid wants to live in a house with two unhappy, miserable parents. Divorced kids suffer when they have bitter, angry parents who can't move on in a healthy way after divorce and drag the children into their hate-filled disputes.
Marriages aren't successful when they're long. Marriages are successful when they're happy and two people are getting their needs met. If that isn't happening and can't be fixed...people should get divorced. Marriage should never be a jail sentence in which a person is forced to stay when the other partner isn't meeting any behavior criteria.
The parental obligation continues until the child is of age...whether or not the marriage ends, as it should. If you don't like the CS tables...you can voice your opinion to your MP or form an action group to try to change it. But the fact of the matter is that things aren't going to change that significantly. So if that's of extreme concern to the OP, then he shouldn't get married. He's not a good candidate. When I got separated, there was no shortage of marriage-minded men and his exemption from that pool won't affect the female population at all.
Believe me, people will continue to get married...people will continue to have children...people will continue to get divorced...and the world will continue to turn. This thread is only interesting because the level of rage on the part of some of the posters is fun to watch.
But more importantly, no one is forced to stay in a bad, unhappy marriage. That should never happen.
CS simply guarantees that once a marriage is over, that the kids are still financially secure with both parents. Marriages end, parenting doesn't.
I get paid offset CS for my youngest child...its not a huge amount of money because I have a career but I decide how I spend it on my kid. My ex never agreed with what I bought or saved for my children even before we divorced and wouldn't agree now. That never stopped from me from spending my money how I see fit. He's the type of guy that believes that kids should pay their own tuition because he did...I disagree. Now that we're divorced, his opinion only applies to his money...not to mine or to the money that the court designates to support our child.
My kids are happier since we've divorced because no kid wants to live in a house with two unhappy, miserable parents. Divorced kids suffer when they have bitter, angry parents who can't move on in a healthy way after divorce and drag the children into their hate-filled disputes.
Marriages aren't successful when they're long. Marriages are successful when they're happy and two people are getting their needs met. If that isn't happening and can't be fixed...people should get divorced. Marriage should never be a jail sentence in which a person is forced to stay when the other partner isn't meeting any behavior criteria.
The parental obligation continues until the child is of age...whether or not the marriage ends, as it should. If you don't like the CS tables...you can voice your opinion to your MP or form an action group to try to change it. But the fact of the matter is that things aren't going to change that significantly. So if that's of extreme concern to the OP, then he shouldn't get married. He's not a good candidate. When I got separated, there was no shortage of marriage-minded men and his exemption from that pool won't affect the female population at all.
Believe me, people will continue to get married...people will continue to have children...people will continue to get divorced...and the world will continue to turn. This thread is only interesting because the level of rage on the part of some of the posters is fun to watch.
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