Well said DTTE.
In my circle of other divorcees, I am considered a success story, because I won custody of my kids from an unreasonable former spouse. Problem is I have never been so beaten down as I find myself now. Feeling like I hold onto custody by a frayed string, and fearful of going to court, and then trying to keep a roof over my kids head is hard right now, and every time I turn around someone else wants money. I have had a hard time keeping work, since my industry is still not recovered, and it has been like this were I live since 9/11. That is why I left Canada. Work stability, and respect, decent pay, and good schedule. Here I am often just another warm body, or just the guy hired to do a job for the short time. And because of access rights of my ex, I can't move to another city were the work situation is better.
Since my current wife has gotten back from renewing her visa, my kids seem to have started to calm down too. I know they have been affected by the ongoing problems, and since our last court date a few weeks ago, my ex must have been told by her lawyer to wind her neck in, because I have not received the same disrespect that there was, and she has even started to contribute to the kid's school needs. She even has been dropping the kids off on time for a change.
Some of this stuff I have had to face in court, from the police, from the schools, from CAS, and then my ex has really affected me, and the effect is I judge with my bias a little to often, and maybe spout the same bias that I have seen. Not everyone is like my ex, and I need to remember that some times.
In my circle of other divorcees, I am considered a success story, because I won custody of my kids from an unreasonable former spouse. Problem is I have never been so beaten down as I find myself now. Feeling like I hold onto custody by a frayed string, and fearful of going to court, and then trying to keep a roof over my kids head is hard right now, and every time I turn around someone else wants money. I have had a hard time keeping work, since my industry is still not recovered, and it has been like this were I live since 9/11. That is why I left Canada. Work stability, and respect, decent pay, and good schedule. Here I am often just another warm body, or just the guy hired to do a job for the short time. And because of access rights of my ex, I can't move to another city were the work situation is better.
Since my current wife has gotten back from renewing her visa, my kids seem to have started to calm down too. I know they have been affected by the ongoing problems, and since our last court date a few weeks ago, my ex must have been told by her lawyer to wind her neck in, because I have not received the same disrespect that there was, and she has even started to contribute to the kid's school needs. She even has been dropping the kids off on time for a change.
Some of this stuff I have had to face in court, from the police, from the schools, from CAS, and then my ex has really affected me, and the effect is I judge with my bias a little to often, and maybe spout the same bias that I have seen. Not everyone is like my ex, and I need to remember that some times.
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