Hi Everybody
I just read the "too busy to be a dad", and I'm trying NOT to be. My ex and I split about 5 years ago. We're pretty civil, all things considered, and for the year after I left (she stayed in the mat home, I lived with my mum), she gave me unfettered access and I did weekends and the odd day during the week. When I bought my house (end-2005), I started week on/week off.
Fast forward to Aug 2007.
I met someone who has older kids and didn't want to be in the middle or the target of anything as trying to be a "fill-in mom", so she is pretty much outside my kids. We do some things as the 4 of us, but not really much and she doesn't stay over etc.
Here's the issue. My ex is extremely angry at me because I am not available at a moment's notice or whenever something comes up if I don't have the kids. She would call about a homework issue (not done, not understood, etc), in the evening and want to talk about it.
Am I wrong in thinking that a balance can be that the other parent can deal with issues and if it is serious share or discuss? For big issues we do discuss and figure out.
I'm just trying to see what others do for a "balanced time" with the kids. I'm as involved as I can be (on school council, know their friends and parents, do activities, etc) but when I don't have the kids I do things for myself and am not home much at all.
I just read the "too busy to be a dad", and I'm trying NOT to be. My ex and I split about 5 years ago. We're pretty civil, all things considered, and for the year after I left (she stayed in the mat home, I lived with my mum), she gave me unfettered access and I did weekends and the odd day during the week. When I bought my house (end-2005), I started week on/week off.
Fast forward to Aug 2007.
I met someone who has older kids and didn't want to be in the middle or the target of anything as trying to be a "fill-in mom", so she is pretty much outside my kids. We do some things as the 4 of us, but not really much and she doesn't stay over etc.
Here's the issue. My ex is extremely angry at me because I am not available at a moment's notice or whenever something comes up if I don't have the kids. She would call about a homework issue (not done, not understood, etc), in the evening and want to talk about it.
Am I wrong in thinking that a balance can be that the other parent can deal with issues and if it is serious share or discuss? For big issues we do discuss and figure out.
I'm just trying to see what others do for a "balanced time" with the kids. I'm as involved as I can be (on school council, know their friends and parents, do activities, etc) but when I don't have the kids I do things for myself and am not home much at all.
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