Well this says it all doesn't it? "When is it time to part ways with your lawyer?" I don't know if anyone has anything that might help make the decision for the right reasons??
I have spent the last month doing my best to not let my emotions control my thoughts, my up and down health issues that are just down/down lately - my last stop was yesterday was my GP's office, amongst other things, my current state was discussed and this in hand I have checked on all the things that make sense, both Mess and Tayken have put some very good and insightfull posts on the merits of using your head, even some expectations from both sides (there are always two sides and the bridge is communication and listening). For a long time I have felt the drawbrige is in the up position....
SO to the point, deciding such a significant move is at least costly or perhaps a necessary expense if the end result is what you are after. How about trust? Perhaps Results is the ultimate yardstick? I made the choice not to micromanage my lawyer, asked the basics, did my best to give him the information that he needed or perhaps I felt was important, cogent evidence or information of such but ultimately left it to his strategy. I did allow him to prepare the brief and to plead as he saw fit both times - I did my very best to do what he has asked of me and although I am darn dog slow. This is something I have been discussing with the doctor for some time and in depth this week - there is reason; it is not "all in my head".
So I have tried to look in the mirror long and hard, I have even tried to ask my question and write my answer with stay pat in mind - the last thing I want is to change lawyers, heck I fear that what I was told one day a long time ago - I may have a hard time finding a lawyer for what is in our file - and my ex, the same, perhaps even a more difficult time. This I think is very, very true. The answer can only come from within - I admit I am just at my crossroad but I want to do my best to not let my emotions decide this.
I have spent the last month doing my best to not let my emotions control my thoughts, my up and down health issues that are just down/down lately - my last stop was yesterday was my GP's office, amongst other things, my current state was discussed and this in hand I have checked on all the things that make sense, both Mess and Tayken have put some very good and insightfull posts on the merits of using your head, even some expectations from both sides (there are always two sides and the bridge is communication and listening). For a long time I have felt the drawbrige is in the up position....
SO to the point, deciding such a significant move is at least costly or perhaps a necessary expense if the end result is what you are after. How about trust? Perhaps Results is the ultimate yardstick? I made the choice not to micromanage my lawyer, asked the basics, did my best to give him the information that he needed or perhaps I felt was important, cogent evidence or information of such but ultimately left it to his strategy. I did allow him to prepare the brief and to plead as he saw fit both times - I did my very best to do what he has asked of me and although I am darn dog slow. This is something I have been discussing with the doctor for some time and in depth this week - there is reason; it is not "all in my head".
So I have tried to look in the mirror long and hard, I have even tried to ask my question and write my answer with stay pat in mind - the last thing I want is to change lawyers, heck I fear that what I was told one day a long time ago - I may have a hard time finding a lawyer for what is in our file - and my ex, the same, perhaps even a more difficult time. This I think is very, very true. The answer can only come from within - I admit I am just at my crossroad but I want to do my best to not let my emotions decide this.
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