Good afternoon everyone,
I knew a can of worms would open when I approached regarding increasing my access.
I travel for work sometimes, unfortunately my employer sometimes only gives me 3-5 days notice I am to travel (I have discussed this with them and they have said they will give me more time going forward), which can cause some discrepancies for visitation. I have always given as much time as possible to childs mother if I can not use my parenting time. Normally I can give a week, sometimes 2, however there have certainly been times where less was offered (court order states I am to inform her 'immediately' if I cannot use my time)
She had approached me a few weeks back about possibly taking our child for 5 days in a row so she could potentially take a trip. I asked her for a months notice if possible to ensure I can take our child and will not have to travel that week.
She has come back stating that i am being unfair as I only give her 3 days at times and she should be able to do the same.
I explained that it isnt an apples to apples comparison, for instance missing one 3 hour visit a week is a different story than taking a child for 5 days. I dont have a built in support network like she does (lives with her parents) and ultimately she doesnt travel for work.
That said I do see the inconsistency in the logic, however I thought it was also slightly different for non custodial parents than for custodial parents in the same mannerism that if a non custodial parent chooses to move away they are able to do so, whereas a custodial parent cannot just up and move.
Can anyone shed some light on this for me? Am I out of line with this?
I knew a can of worms would open when I approached regarding increasing my access.
I travel for work sometimes, unfortunately my employer sometimes only gives me 3-5 days notice I am to travel (I have discussed this with them and they have said they will give me more time going forward), which can cause some discrepancies for visitation. I have always given as much time as possible to childs mother if I can not use my parenting time. Normally I can give a week, sometimes 2, however there have certainly been times where less was offered (court order states I am to inform her 'immediately' if I cannot use my time)
She had approached me a few weeks back about possibly taking our child for 5 days in a row so she could potentially take a trip. I asked her for a months notice if possible to ensure I can take our child and will not have to travel that week.
She has come back stating that i am being unfair as I only give her 3 days at times and she should be able to do the same.
I explained that it isnt an apples to apples comparison, for instance missing one 3 hour visit a week is a different story than taking a child for 5 days. I dont have a built in support network like she does (lives with her parents) and ultimately she doesnt travel for work.
That said I do see the inconsistency in the logic, however I thought it was also slightly different for non custodial parents than for custodial parents in the same mannerism that if a non custodial parent chooses to move away they are able to do so, whereas a custodial parent cannot just up and move.
Can anyone shed some light on this for me? Am I out of line with this?
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