I hope all is well.
I had an older account that I could no longer access but this forum has always been a great support for the few questions/scenarios that I have asked. Thank you in advance.
Looking for some advice as I am not looking to waste $$ with a lawyer and know that court bookings are extremely backed up. I am here as my previous common-law ex, separated back in 2009, will continue to be difficult here so I am hoping to get male and female perspective, if possible. Again, thank you.
My oldest son is 16 and soon to be 17 years old. He has wanted to live with me and my wife for some time now but was afraid to let his mother know. Previously, my daughter, who was 14 at the time, actually told her, but it never amounted to nothing as my ex purchased her some new bedroom furniture etc.
My oldest is willing to finish his senior year of high school with us and we've discussed all scenarios, shown him his potential school, what about his friends etc. He is fine with everything and is just looking to make the move. I live in another city, about 1h:20 min away but have never missed a week end pick-up or drop off, unless weather induced. My son had mentioned this to his mother and her response, which was the same for my daughter was, this is an adult conversation. Then, no conversation actually happens and things just go back into the current status quo.
Now, I am old enough to now understand that a lawyer's letter etc means nothing as it is not binding etc, but the downside with my ex is that she receives a lot of support from myself and has government $$ plus she works. So while I've always been a supporter of, just happy for what the kids want, I'm not looking to get into a court battle over something that most likely wouldn't even get to court before he becomes 18 and secondly, may get pushed into court where my time and some money could be used in a non-productive way as it would be her simply trying to see if she could force him to stay with her.
Sadly, she is very controlling, and while I know she loves our children, best interest means her and their best interest relating to her. My youngest son, 14 and I do not have a normal relationship because she allowed him to make the choice at a very tender age to simply stay home and play video games versus come with me.
In the end, what is done is done but simply looking for any advice/strategies from others who may have been in the same boat and found success.
Father of 3
Joint custody - although she seriously acts like she has sole
All financial dealings settled a long time ago
I pay current utd CS
My oldest son will be 17 in approximately 2 months
His reason to move - as he gets older more and more of his interests align with mine. Sports, work, general interests etc. Simply put, he's outgrown where he is, sees the control and wants to make a change. I have told him that I will never stop him from seeing his mother, his friends, or spending time with his siblings etc. And if he finds he doesn't like it, can always go back no grudges or questions asked.
He is ready for a change, which I support, but I know my ex will not. Anyone have any input here?
Appreciate it!
I had an older account that I could no longer access but this forum has always been a great support for the few questions/scenarios that I have asked. Thank you in advance.
Looking for some advice as I am not looking to waste $$ with a lawyer and know that court bookings are extremely backed up. I am here as my previous common-law ex, separated back in 2009, will continue to be difficult here so I am hoping to get male and female perspective, if possible. Again, thank you.
My oldest son is 16 and soon to be 17 years old. He has wanted to live with me and my wife for some time now but was afraid to let his mother know. Previously, my daughter, who was 14 at the time, actually told her, but it never amounted to nothing as my ex purchased her some new bedroom furniture etc.
My oldest is willing to finish his senior year of high school with us and we've discussed all scenarios, shown him his potential school, what about his friends etc. He is fine with everything and is just looking to make the move. I live in another city, about 1h:20 min away but have never missed a week end pick-up or drop off, unless weather induced. My son had mentioned this to his mother and her response, which was the same for my daughter was, this is an adult conversation. Then, no conversation actually happens and things just go back into the current status quo.
Now, I am old enough to now understand that a lawyer's letter etc means nothing as it is not binding etc, but the downside with my ex is that she receives a lot of support from myself and has government $$ plus she works. So while I've always been a supporter of, just happy for what the kids want, I'm not looking to get into a court battle over something that most likely wouldn't even get to court before he becomes 18 and secondly, may get pushed into court where my time and some money could be used in a non-productive way as it would be her simply trying to see if she could force him to stay with her.
Sadly, she is very controlling, and while I know she loves our children, best interest means her and their best interest relating to her. My youngest son, 14 and I do not have a normal relationship because she allowed him to make the choice at a very tender age to simply stay home and play video games versus come with me.
In the end, what is done is done but simply looking for any advice/strategies from others who may have been in the same boat and found success.
Father of 3
Joint custody - although she seriously acts like she has sole
All financial dealings settled a long time ago
I pay current utd CS
My oldest son will be 17 in approximately 2 months
His reason to move - as he gets older more and more of his interests align with mine. Sports, work, general interests etc. Simply put, he's outgrown where he is, sees the control and wants to make a change. I have told him that I will never stop him from seeing his mother, his friends, or spending time with his siblings etc. And if he finds he doesn't like it, can always go back no grudges or questions asked.
He is ready for a change, which I support, but I know my ex will not. Anyone have any input here?
Appreciate it!
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