@Arabian, "Back to the OP - I'm curious on how the out-of-pocket/ section 7 expenses are currently handled. You say that the ex comes to "us" all the time about that. Do you guys just cut her a cheque or reimburse her on the spot or what? Does she send you bills/statements? "
No, we do not just cut a cheque every time. In fact we have argued our position each and every time regarding child support and it covering the things she is asking for. But, as the most recent example she presented us with an amount of close to $3000 for 4 activities coming up for the Fall through to the Spring and asked my ex if he could contribute his 'share'. My guess is, with 3 other kids as well, expenses add up and she feels like she's getting the short end of the stick with regards to the one daughter. We have explained we cannot afford 'extra' given our financial situation and that if she can't make it work with the support then maybe the daughter does less. Its just exhausting and makes us feel like deadbeats all the time. Coming up the million dollar lifestyle is impossible.
The reason I posted this to begin with is we are getting very tired of having to have the arguement over and over. We are tired of the ex constantly complaining that his money doesn't do 'enough'...when she doesn't even work!! We do not go back and forth to court or to our lawyer as we're not silly enough to waste our time.
I simply wanted some true facts as to how it would be handled 'hypothetically'..so that if needed we could send a message more strongly to the ex in order to end the madness every month.
You have commented quite a bit but the actual answers I was looking for have yet still not been answered. Especially the one that if she has 'no income' then her family income would be used, would mine not be as well?
No, we do not just cut a cheque every time. In fact we have argued our position each and every time regarding child support and it covering the things she is asking for. But, as the most recent example she presented us with an amount of close to $3000 for 4 activities coming up for the Fall through to the Spring and asked my ex if he could contribute his 'share'. My guess is, with 3 other kids as well, expenses add up and she feels like she's getting the short end of the stick with regards to the one daughter. We have explained we cannot afford 'extra' given our financial situation and that if she can't make it work with the support then maybe the daughter does less. Its just exhausting and makes us feel like deadbeats all the time. Coming up the million dollar lifestyle is impossible.
The reason I posted this to begin with is we are getting very tired of having to have the arguement over and over. We are tired of the ex constantly complaining that his money doesn't do 'enough'...when she doesn't even work!! We do not go back and forth to court or to our lawyer as we're not silly enough to waste our time.
I simply wanted some true facts as to how it would be handled 'hypothetically'..so that if needed we could send a message more strongly to the ex in order to end the madness every month.
You have commented quite a bit but the actual answers I was looking for have yet still not been answered. Especially the one that if she has 'no income' then her family income would be used, would mine not be as well?
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