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    I have separated in september of 2008, we have no children together and been common law since aug 2000. I let the ex live in the house as she had a business and needed a place to stay. This was mistake number one as we started to argued and stopped talking all together. Mistake number 2, I started negotiate the division of furniture etc, of course it did not take long that she wanted half the value of the house, pension, everything, but I was accused of not wanting to negotiate and she got a lawyer. Mistake 3 The insurance was due in March and I did not want to take insurance for her bussiness so i ask her to pay for her own insurance. So she had to find another place to carry out her business. Finally I got a lawyer and was told she was moving out the 1 of june, I was arrested on the 29 May 2009, i was called by the police for harassment, rape (in 2008 before our separation???), and domestic mischief. Of course I was kick out of the house and was force to go live with my mom (I adore my mom but it is not my house).

    So the morale of the story is do not wait, get a lawyer and kick her or him out right away, do not try to be nice. Because the other person may not be the same then you knew before and may press charge even if nothing happened. Desperation i would think. But the consequence for you may be disatrous, job, future and you are guilty until proven innocent. Yes I was sent to Jail, and this could not be stopped as her version for the police was the only one that counted.

    So that everyone know the house is in my name only and I am the only one that have done the payment for tax, utilities and bill.

  • #2
    Just to clarify things a little, all the charge brought against are false, but the implication is tremendous. This was vengeance and it is not a laughing matter when suddenly your liberty, family, job is put at risk from a false accusation. There is no recourse neither or if there are they are minimal. I will shut up and that is it, what else can i do.

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    • #3
      so basically she filed a false police report against you the day before she was to vacate the house? Any judge should look at the timeline and realize the charges were just a matter of convience for her. I am thinking that will not look good for her. When you are vindicated, which you will be, then bring a charge against her for false allegations and false arrest and nail her ass to the wall with a lawsuit.

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      • #4
        I wish I was as mean as she is, but I am not sure if I should. I really believe that there is something wrong with her as far as mental health is concerned. She is in my house now and probably cleaning the place, and there is nothing I can do to stop this. I still pay the bills coming from the mail over my house and her assurance for the car. My lawer is filing a motion to get her out of my house but I do not trust the justice system anymore to help me or return what is mine.

        I am guilty until proven innocent, that is all there is to it and out of my own house until the end of June. I will request from the police to gain access to some of my personnal effects once again as I could not take them all the only time I was allowed to go and get them with police escort. She just had to say that I was not taking something and the police was in agreement. Next time I go with my receipt.

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        • #5
          the same thing happened when my ex moved out. The only thing that I would not allow him to take was the fridge that we both paid for. The cops told him he had to leave it and deal with it in the divorce. I let him take the furniture he bought, stereo etc etc. The only reason I said no for the fridge is becasue we both paid 50 bucks (100 fridge) it was the middle of summer and he was going to be at a place where he has use of the fridge there. I would be left with no fridge and no money to buy one. He made more money then me so it would have been easier for him to replace it then me.

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          • #6
            Any way that you look at it, nobody win in these type of separation. We tried to negotiate a deal in good faith but when I dissagreed with incluing my pension plan and lenght of support she went to a lawyer. So nobody gain or win anything that is just the way it is. The saddest part in this, is that she has used her child to try to gain advantage of the situation.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Max22258 View Post
              I am guilty until proven innocent....,

              Welcome to Family Law!!!!!!

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              • #8
                Ok motion still has not been done since my arrest in may to get her out of my house. we have got together in diferent room for negotiation and she wants 2800 a month, take note that we have no child together, we lived together for only 8 years, common law. The house, cars are in my name and i have been the only one paying for them. I have over $90,000 in debt without counting the house. But this seems not to deter the appointed Ontario negociator which thought that this number was reasonnable, well if i had no debt, no 2 car to pay and no house to pay. She received child support from ex, but have nevr got it indexed to his salary that is about the same then mine. He pay $250 a month.

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                • #9
                  You were right, finally a family law judge that look at the same thing as far as the timeline is concerned, I hope the criminal judge does the same thing. Family law is a strange law where a husband either common law or not, can be put in jail simply by putting a complaint. I do realize there is valid complaints, and now I cannot help it to doubt them. I see lots of man in the paper that finally lost it and actually commit a crime. Well I had strong support and kept my cool despite the false allegation. I know that the truth will come out and I feel sad as she may be the one going to Jail, well sad for her and her child.

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