New to this madness ...

[Sad54]

Lol! Kate331 you gave me a good chuckle.

Yes the bio father is devoted and you are right about the mother being a nut case. It gets better ... She decided that she didn’t want to be a mom anymore but loves being a mother. She didn’t want to deal with the day to day things involved in being a mom because it interfered with her wanting to be a writer. She got rid of her husband, let him have custody of the kids (she just has them for occasional sleepovers and outings). She got herself an apartment and my husband. Life is good.

I’m pretty sure there will be good days ahead for me.

[kate331]

This is even better, now that we know these girls are shielded from this with a loving Father, yes there is a God. My ex did the exact same thing, except his new love expresses herself through aromatherapy (dont ask me how that works, I dont have a clue). I have little sympathy for parents that abandon their children to fulfill their own needs, lets hope he is shooting blanks.

The best revenge is living a good life, and I see a bright future for you and your family. You can do this!!!

[Sad54]

Again, you made me smile! I’m going to have to change my username at this rate 😆.

And yes, he is shooting blanks lol

[kate331]

Originally Posted by Sad54

He has said more than once that his affair partner’s children are so bright and smart. He plays board games with them, goes to movies with them, etc. Makes my kids feel really rejected.

You maybe should mention to your adult children, that he is playing Grandpa to these children. Of course Grandparents think Grandchildren are perfect. The credit belongs to these girls father imo.

There are members here that have far more knowledge on the legal stuff, that can help you through this stage in your new life.

But I do hope, I and others can make you eventually change your user name to Happy54!

[arabian]

In the years to come you will arrive at the peace of mind that I am now entering in that "I dodged a bullet" in that I don't have to spend my old age playing nurse to a miserable old puke.

My revenge is, as others told me it would be, that I am living well and have love of my son. I have never forgotten my ex telling me that he would "see me homeless on the streets." Well, he tried his very best. My anger propelled me through those dark times. I survived. You will too.

[Sad54]

Arabian, that is so sad that your ex had wanted to see you homeless on the streets. How can someone say that to anyone let alone someone they had once loved? Just terrible. I am happy that your life is so good today.

[rockscan]

Originally Posted by Sad54

Arabian, that is so sad that your ex had wanted to see you homeless on the streets. How can someone say that to anyone let alone someone they had once loved? Just terrible. I am happy that your life is so good today.

Are you kidding? Most vindictive exes do this! My partners ex is now trying to give him a heart attack with all her bs. Making sure the kids are in his will and have hundreds of thousands in life insurance coverage. My father told my mother she got enough of his money and wasn’t getting anymore and that money was for a roof over his kids heads!

Your ex is going to get super ugly in this process so prepare yourself. Selfish narcissistic people do that. Not to scare you, to prepare you. No matter what he says or does, you stay true to yourself because he will not be thinking of anyone but himself!

[Sad54]

Well, I won’t be changing my username to happy54 just yet. I thought I was past the weepy stage but apparently not. The last couple of days have been hard.

I wish I could fast forward to next year and be done with this.

[Mom 2 Two]

Originally Posted by Sad54

Well, I won’t be changing my username to happy54 just yet. I thought I was past the weepy stage but apparently not. The last couple of days have been hard.



I wish I could fast forward to next year and be done with this.

Hugs to you. It does get better even though that’s hard to see right now. Try to go see friends or your kids. Keep yourself busy... but also let yourself grieve.


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[Sad54]

Thanks Mom 2 Two. In my mind I know you are right.