Hey Everyone,
Here is a little background:
Together: 17yrs, Married: Aug 2002
Separated: May 2011
SA signed: July 2011 (signed by us and witness, no lawyers involved)
Matrimonial Home sold: Aug 2011 (assets divided, joint debt paid, balance spilt equally)
Moved out on my own: Sep 1 2011
Closing of Mat Home: Sep 30, 2011
X bought townhouse 800m away from my apartment
Kids: 2 boys, 6 & 10
Shared parenting 50/50, Kids are exchanged at 4pm on Sundays according to SA
So here is where I need advice:
X talks to me yesterday about wanting to start exchanging the kids on Saturdays at 4pm rather than Sundays, telling me they are driving him crazy. I asked him to let me think about it a little bit and then we could discuss it some more.
If I agree to this proposal then I loose out on a full weekend with my kids, which means no planning weekend trips, if ever the kids want to have sleepovers at a friends place then I loose even more time.
I work full time, so during my weeks, I get about 1hr with kids in the mornings before they go to daycare, then by the time I pick them up at 4pm after work, we get about 3 to 4 hours together before they are off to bed, including homework, dinner, showers, etc. So I look forward to the weekends when I can spend two full days with them.
I've tried thinking of alternatives, such as switching on Fridays or Mondays, but I don't think he would accept this as I think he is trying to only have them one full day on weekends rather than two full days every other weekend.
I don't want to be difficult, I want to be able to comprimise. I had even thought of telling him that if his preference is to bring them back on Saturdays on his weeks that he can, but that I would still keep them for my full weekend and bring them back to him on Sundays.
Has anyone here had to deal with this before? Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks,
Angie
Here is a little background:
Together: 17yrs, Married: Aug 2002
Separated: May 2011
SA signed: July 2011 (signed by us and witness, no lawyers involved)
Matrimonial Home sold: Aug 2011 (assets divided, joint debt paid, balance spilt equally)
Moved out on my own: Sep 1 2011
Closing of Mat Home: Sep 30, 2011
X bought townhouse 800m away from my apartment
Kids: 2 boys, 6 & 10
Shared parenting 50/50, Kids are exchanged at 4pm on Sundays according to SA
So here is where I need advice:
X talks to me yesterday about wanting to start exchanging the kids on Saturdays at 4pm rather than Sundays, telling me they are driving him crazy. I asked him to let me think about it a little bit and then we could discuss it some more.
If I agree to this proposal then I loose out on a full weekend with my kids, which means no planning weekend trips, if ever the kids want to have sleepovers at a friends place then I loose even more time.
I work full time, so during my weeks, I get about 1hr with kids in the mornings before they go to daycare, then by the time I pick them up at 4pm after work, we get about 3 to 4 hours together before they are off to bed, including homework, dinner, showers, etc. So I look forward to the weekends when I can spend two full days with them.
I've tried thinking of alternatives, such as switching on Fridays or Mondays, but I don't think he would accept this as I think he is trying to only have them one full day on weekends rather than two full days every other weekend.
I don't want to be difficult, I want to be able to comprimise. I had even thought of telling him that if his preference is to bring them back on Saturdays on his weeks that he can, but that I would still keep them for my full weekend and bring them back to him on Sundays.
Has anyone here had to deal with this before? Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks,
Angie
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