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    Keeping in mind that anything you say here can be read by anyone. Even years in the future, including your current spouse, your ex, your lawyer, the ex's lawyer, your kids, your next spouse. Does anyone here every worry that their posts may be used/held against them? I have often wondered this myself. What if the ex is also posting, or even just reading my posts .

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    Maybe Jeff could respond here

    Great post Grace

    I know I have the same concerns and I doubt we are alone. I wonder whether some sort of blanket disclaimer could be added to the site entrance,or protection of somekind...a without prejudice type notification, to promote our free speech and keep anything said in here from being published or used against in any way.

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    • #3
      I have thought this

      That occurred to me as well, but then I realized that I don't ever do or say anything that I wouldn't do or say directly to my ex.

      It's like I tell my kids - don't say anything about anyone or anything that you aren't willing to say to their face or that you wouldn't want to get back to them.

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      • #4
        I consider everything said on these forums to be of 'educational' content ... we are merely seeking and asking.

        Good point thought Grace ...

        Hubby

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        • #5
          My thought is can any of these things said and written in here be held against us later on in any court cases? I would think so. Well maybe. I think it would be a sticky issue.

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          • #6
            That's why we all gotta be careful to not to expose real names or anything too "risky".

            Remember, anything can be used against you on online now a days. Just keep it safe and don't trust everyone that you meet.

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            • #7
              Hubby makes a good point. So do some of the others. I think anything you post anywhere on the net should keep some of the simple do unto others rules in mind. I always read it and wonder what my momma would say. LOL! ;-)

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              • #8
                Best to remain anonymous.

                I did read a case some time ago where one of the parties wrote a book and used her real name. The published book was used against her as evidence in a subsequent custody hearing. She did nothing but defame the other parent in this book. The court was not impressed by her behavior and her published statements. I seem to recall that the courts reversed their earlier decision and awarded custody of the child to the other parent on this issue alone as it was clear evidence she was not acting in the child's best interest. Nothing is ever final in family law and is open for review if deemed necessary and if the child best interest direct same.

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                • #9
                  and just to add to this, email can most definitly be used against you...I know from personal experience. My ex hacked into my email account and printed out everything unbeknownst to me. I didn't find out till it was included in the court documents ..yep now its a permanent record forever and ever and ever..great eh? Nothing like having your private personal feelings published for whoever wants to take a look.

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                  • #10
                    jlalex,

                    Same thing happened to me. I e-mailed an extremely emotional letter to someone, just to purely vent my frustrations, in which I thought would remain private. My ex managed to hack into my e-mail also, and this private e-mail ended up as an attachment to a very "ugly affidavit". He was also reading correspondence and affidavits sent by my lawyers, before I figured it out.

                    Also beware that one party can tape a telephone conversation without the others knowledge which can also be used as evidence in court.

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                    • #11
                      Grace,

                      use of emails in affidavits to come under the evidence act. Have you seen the hard electronics records?

                      http://www.e-laws.gov.on.ca/DBLaws/S...sh/90e23_e.htm


                      Anyone with a word processing application can make a fake email and attach to an affidavit. The email is not formally signed by you.

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                      • #12
                        I always watch what I say here as I do when Im talking to someone in real life - it's no different online.

                        Nothing is sacred, and forum posts definitely aren't

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                        • #13
                          This just goes to show you that nothing is truly "private". So maybe we should all become Catholic so we can vent to a priest in confession. LOL!

                          Emails, phone calls, mail, forum posts, website addresses (yes, I know of a list of porn sites on a server/IP coming back to haunt a man in court)...it all can be used in some form to discredit you!

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by logicalvelocity
                            Grace,

                            use of emails in affidavits to come under the evidence act. Have you seen the hard electronics records?

                            http://www.e-laws.gov.on.ca/DBLaws/S...sh/90e23_e.htm


                            Anyone with a word processing application can make a fake email and attach to an affidavit. The email is not formally signed by you.
                            True, LV. Fact of the matter in my case was the e-mail was not altered in any way by my ex. It was my e-mail (not intended for him to see) and they were my words. When I wrote it, I never thought, it would end up in an affidavit. In my reply to his affidavit I apologized for it. I now use encrypted software for any sensitive e-mails.

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