Hi forum,
Whenever my ex doesn't get what she wants, she sends an email claiming
i) I yell at her in front of the kids
ii) I hang up on her on the phone
iii) I need to seek help
iv) and what ever she can make up write up at the time.
It always starts off with her saying she wants peace, then it goes into a rant about false claims, blame on me and says whatever i do is detrimental to the kids, even though I have done nothing. (If she wants peace, then why would she create such an offensive email.)
This seems to be a common trend in all her emails even though I haven't done anything or spoken to her. I have avoided talking to her on the phone and using email only when i can. On transitions with the kids, i'm recording all the conversations to prove that I am not "yelling" or doing anything wrong. I've been doing this for the last 2 months when I notice an increase in email activity from her. I have record of no wrong doing.
I have not responded to any of these email accusations and I'm just holding it back. It seems like she is trying to establish/make up a behavioural pattern against me with her own emails.
I have also received a letter from her lawyer making the same claims, which is totally false, I felt like I should have had my lawyer respond, but I decided to save my money. (it seems like a game for lawyers to write letter back and forth)
All my emails back to her pure functional, usually 3 sentences or less. I don't email about anything else except the subject matter in discussion.
Can you tell me if i should be responding or defending myself?
Can she use her own emails against me to falsely establish these claims?
How do you deal with someone cutting you up all the time?
It feels like what she's doing is out of some sort of playbook to get me fired up.
thanks again.
Whenever my ex doesn't get what she wants, she sends an email claiming
i) I yell at her in front of the kids
ii) I hang up on her on the phone
iii) I need to seek help
iv) and what ever she can make up write up at the time.
It always starts off with her saying she wants peace, then it goes into a rant about false claims, blame on me and says whatever i do is detrimental to the kids, even though I have done nothing. (If she wants peace, then why would she create such an offensive email.)
This seems to be a common trend in all her emails even though I haven't done anything or spoken to her. I have avoided talking to her on the phone and using email only when i can. On transitions with the kids, i'm recording all the conversations to prove that I am not "yelling" or doing anything wrong. I've been doing this for the last 2 months when I notice an increase in email activity from her. I have record of no wrong doing.
I have not responded to any of these email accusations and I'm just holding it back. It seems like she is trying to establish/make up a behavioural pattern against me with her own emails.
I have also received a letter from her lawyer making the same claims, which is totally false, I felt like I should have had my lawyer respond, but I decided to save my money. (it seems like a game for lawyers to write letter back and forth)
All my emails back to her pure functional, usually 3 sentences or less. I don't email about anything else except the subject matter in discussion.
Can you tell me if i should be responding or defending myself?
Can she use her own emails against me to falsely establish these claims?
How do you deal with someone cutting you up all the time?
It feels like what she's doing is out of some sort of playbook to get me fired up.
thanks again.
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