Hi all
So here is a question related to travel costs for access. I had touched on in a previous post.
STBX moved 300km away (4 hours drive) on separation (fall 2011) with our son - now 8. I did consent to the move, but she also agreed to "help me out" with access, it was all verbal and friendly at the time. She was moving to the city he was born in, and where her family is from. She suffers from depression, etc - so her moving to where there is a support structure makes sense.
I had asked her to share the driving 50/50 for several months. she never did.
We follow a EOW and 1/2 holidays access schedule.
In Feb 2012 I had my lawyer write a short letter to ask her to share driving, and I got a 2 page letter back from her lawyer with excuses why she cant. Saying the status quo was that I did all the driving, so that is what's fair, blah blah blah..
I've done all the driving the last 23 months - except for 4 occasions.
Driving doesn't cause any economic hardship for me. Its very time consuming thou - taking up two 8 hour days per access block..
She has told me flat out she will not share driving.
She claims she doesn't have the money for driving, car repairs, etc. This is true, in that she works part time, lives well beyond her means.
She is a VERY stubborn woman. I would be thrilled if she did 25% of the driving. I know I'm not being unreasonable.
We have no written separation agreement, but we have had a case conference. lawyer didn't bring up transportation as an issue for the case conference - CC was about $$$.
When our son is older I'll put him on the greyhound bus, or fly him back to her after my access times. He is 8 now, so this is a few years away still.
I don't think that Economic hardship is going to work for me to have my CS reduced. It would be a stretch to say the least.
Any suggestions how to address this transportation for access issue?
So here is a question related to travel costs for access. I had touched on in a previous post.
STBX moved 300km away (4 hours drive) on separation (fall 2011) with our son - now 8. I did consent to the move, but she also agreed to "help me out" with access, it was all verbal and friendly at the time. She was moving to the city he was born in, and where her family is from. She suffers from depression, etc - so her moving to where there is a support structure makes sense.
I had asked her to share the driving 50/50 for several months. she never did.
We follow a EOW and 1/2 holidays access schedule.
In Feb 2012 I had my lawyer write a short letter to ask her to share driving, and I got a 2 page letter back from her lawyer with excuses why she cant. Saying the status quo was that I did all the driving, so that is what's fair, blah blah blah..
I've done all the driving the last 23 months - except for 4 occasions.
Driving doesn't cause any economic hardship for me. Its very time consuming thou - taking up two 8 hour days per access block..
She has told me flat out she will not share driving.
She claims she doesn't have the money for driving, car repairs, etc. This is true, in that she works part time, lives well beyond her means.
She is a VERY stubborn woman. I would be thrilled if she did 25% of the driving. I know I'm not being unreasonable.
We have no written separation agreement, but we have had a case conference. lawyer didn't bring up transportation as an issue for the case conference - CC was about $$$.
When our son is older I'll put him on the greyhound bus, or fly him back to her after my access times. He is 8 now, so this is a few years away still.
I don't think that Economic hardship is going to work for me to have my CS reduced. It would be a stretch to say the least.
Any suggestions how to address this transportation for access issue?
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