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Old 11-13-2013, 11:16 AM
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Hoping someone has some insight for me. I'm self repping and we have a speak to date for Monday with trial commencing a week after that. I've just received a letter from his lawyer advising that he is seeking an adjournment based on the fact that my polygamist deadbeat ex is not able to be here at that time.

I've just received this letter so I haven't researched anything. What is the process now? Do I have options to contest it? It has been 2 years this month that I originally filed. I need this crap over with. We are already divorced and I have custody. Issues are support and property/equity. he pays no cs and no real way to force him to and I am asking for his equity in lieu of cs.

I have everything prepared, all of my paperwork has been filed and served/served and filed. I have my vacation days at work booked for this trial. I want it OVER!
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Old 11-13-2013, 11:29 AM
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Hoping someone has some insight for me. I'm self repping and we have a speak to date for Monday with trial commencing a week after that. I've just received a letter from his lawyer advising that he is seeking an adjournment based on the fact that my polygamist deadbeat ex is not able to be here at that time.

I've just received this letter so I haven't researched anything. What is the process now? Do I have options to contest it? It has been 2 years this month that I originally filed. I need this crap over with. We are already divorced and I have custody. Issues are support and property/equity. he pays no cs and no real way to force him to and I am asking for his equity in lieu of cs.

I have everything prepared, all of my paperwork has been filed and served/served and filed. I have my vacation days at work booked for this trial. I want it OVER!
You want it over, sent an offer to settle. Make it tempting enough to consider.

We've discussed this before. Murderers have the right to a fair trial and to stand and face their accusers. So does your ex. That is part of due process. Hopefully in your case the judge can see a pattern where he can come to the conclusion that he is stalling, and won't ever show up, but don't bet on it.
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Old 11-13-2013, 11:46 AM
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I have made an offer. 2 actually. I offered to take all debt, all of it. In return for his equity in lieu of cs. I am actually taking a loss in that agreement. Ex emailed me directly and said he would agree if I allowed my daughter to go there and visit him in the middle east. I suggested Hell No but he was welcome to visit her here. Keep in mind a judge has already ordered no access. I have told him he can chat on skype, email or phone. He rarely has used those options. Aside from taking all the debt which I will have to do anyway as he doesnt pay it, the only other option I have is to walk away which means my child esentially gets zip. He has been such a disgrace to her, she deserves so much better than that...I really cant do that.

I am frustrated though. Ive been playing by the rules and then some. Taking care of everything on my own. The arguing, the stress etc. Im at the breaking point.
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Old 11-13-2013, 11:56 AM
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I have made an offer. 2 actually. I offered to take all debt, all of it. In return for his equity in lieu of cs. I am actually taking a loss in that agreement. Ex emailed me directly and said he would agree if I allowed my daughter to go there and visit him in the middle east. I suggested Hell No but he was welcome to visit her here. Keep in mind a judge has already ordered no access. I have told him he can chat on skype, email or phone. He rarely has used those options. Aside from taking all the debt which I will have to do anyway as he doesnt pay it, the only other option I have is to walk away which means my child esentially gets zip. He has been such a disgrace to her, she deserves so much better than that...I really cant do that.

I am frustrated though. Ive been playing by the rules and then some. Taking care of everything on my own. The arguing, the stress etc. Im at the breaking point.
You don't have many options other than just keep going.
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Old 11-13-2013, 08:31 PM
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I feel your pain. We have made at least 9 offers.
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Old 11-13-2013, 09:33 PM
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I can relate to your frustration. My ex has taken me to court over 7 times and to make things worse HE frequently pulls the same stunt.

Stalling tactics are annoying and a waste of the court's time and resources. Pity there isn't more accountability.
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