I'm on the brink of sending an email, but would appreciate a few opinions on whether this is justified or whether I'm being too fussy and seeing problems where there aren't any.
Situation: 50/50. Kid is with me this week. Kid's holiday concert is next week. School issues two tickets per kid for parents. I hadn't received any information. Contacted teacher last night to ask. Teacher said tickets and info went home with kid last week, when kid was with Dad. Contacted Dad to ask if he had tickets. Dad says yes, kid brought two tickets home, I should get in touch with the school office to get extra tickets as Dad and StepMom will be using tickets brought home by kid. He meant to tell me but he forgot.
My problem: I don't Dad appropriating things meant for both parents for him and StepMom. I am also familiar with his habit of "forgetting".
My dilemma: Do I send Dad a note politely reminding him that when something is sent home for Kid's parents (concert tickets, school pictures, reports, whatever), it is meant for him and me, not him and StepMom? Or more pointedly, that StepMom is the one who should be asking the school office if there are any extra tickets, not me?
In other words, is this worth making an issue of?
Possibly relevant factors:
1. I have no objection at all to StepMom coming to the concert - no issues with her.
2. When school concert tickets came home last year, I kept one for me and sent one to Dad with kid on changeover day.
3. It would never occur to me to use parent tickets to bring my bf to Kid's concert - he's not her dad.
4. Ex can be a royal pain in the neck to deal with, but the last couple of months he's been pretty civil ...
5. ... but nonetheless when ex says he "forgot" something, he generally didn't really forget it - he made a choice that he knew I wouldn't like and so he decided not to tell me (I learned this over the course of 20 years of marriage).
6. Extra tickets are available.
Any thoughts? I don't want to fire off an unnecessary email, but I also don't like Dad's presumptions here.
Situation: 50/50. Kid is with me this week. Kid's holiday concert is next week. School issues two tickets per kid for parents. I hadn't received any information. Contacted teacher last night to ask. Teacher said tickets and info went home with kid last week, when kid was with Dad. Contacted Dad to ask if he had tickets. Dad says yes, kid brought two tickets home, I should get in touch with the school office to get extra tickets as Dad and StepMom will be using tickets brought home by kid. He meant to tell me but he forgot.
My problem: I don't Dad appropriating things meant for both parents for him and StepMom. I am also familiar with his habit of "forgetting".
My dilemma: Do I send Dad a note politely reminding him that when something is sent home for Kid's parents (concert tickets, school pictures, reports, whatever), it is meant for him and me, not him and StepMom? Or more pointedly, that StepMom is the one who should be asking the school office if there are any extra tickets, not me?
In other words, is this worth making an issue of?
Possibly relevant factors:
1. I have no objection at all to StepMom coming to the concert - no issues with her.
2. When school concert tickets came home last year, I kept one for me and sent one to Dad with kid on changeover day.
3. It would never occur to me to use parent tickets to bring my bf to Kid's concert - he's not her dad.
4. Ex can be a royal pain in the neck to deal with, but the last couple of months he's been pretty civil ...
5. ... but nonetheless when ex says he "forgot" something, he generally didn't really forget it - he made a choice that he knew I wouldn't like and so he decided not to tell me (I learned this over the course of 20 years of marriage).
6. Extra tickets are available.
Any thoughts? I don't want to fire off an unnecessary email, but I also don't like Dad's presumptions here.
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