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Old 05-15-2017, 03:21 PM
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Old 05-24-2017, 11:43 AM
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To update...cant move jurisdictions as she "fired first". My partner is trying to decide between paying his lawyers half rate for travel time or go with a lawyer in that jurisdiction. There are pros and cons to both. The only con seems to be the travel costs. His lawyer here lets me help organize materials and do the leg work his assistants would do to save money, lawyer there may not. Partner is also comfortable with his lawyer here and based on what he said at the appointment I feel pretty confident this will be straight forward from our side, just depends on the reasonable behaviour by the ex.

Ive got a list of requests for the form 20 to back up her claims. I know the onus is on her to prove it all but I firmly believe his lawyer should be adequately armed. The harder part is the kids being pissed at what hes asking for (records, financial info, school info etc). I told him if shes going to use the kids then this was bound to happen.

Now its just a matter of helping him cope emotionally. Today was bittersweet as he was given his best performance review in his career. The big whigs were there and told him they are so impressed with his work and he scored higher than anyone in the company. It comes with a pay raise too which he now has to get documentation on and advise her accordingly.

I dont know how you self reps do this. We're not sleeping, fighting over everything, hes so jumpy I have to be careful not to surprise him and we both have been having panic attacks. Mine is more because I feel so helpless in providing support and protection.
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Old 02-14-2018, 01:42 PM
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I need to vent again...

Bill from the lawyer brings this up to $4200 spent yet no movement. Havenít had a cc yet. Ex is now sitting on things as she has other things to worry about. Meanwhile my partner is continuing to look like a deadbeat. He gets another message from kid asking how heís finding information out. Like heís not allowed to know! I cannot believe this ridiculous system where these exís get away with this bs. They turn the kids against their parent, make astronomical requests for money they arenít entitled to (and against the law and agreement they signed) and then hold you hostage because they have other priorities. Such bullshit. Meanwhile there is jurisprudence about stopping cs or not paying expenses for kids who turn their back on a parent for no reason but it would be too expensive to argue it. Where is the justice in this stuff? Why arenít these parents being reprimanded?

I can only hope that once they do get to the cc the judge lays it out cold for the ex that everything she is asking for is not legal and gets her to settle.
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Old 08-20-2018, 09:25 PM
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so whatever happened in the end?
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Old 08-20-2018, 10:26 PM
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Still waiting on a date for the conference. The ex (who started this) is dragging her heels. Kids still think dad is a deadbeat. The good news is that FRO finally read the order and dropped one kid off cs as they aged out according to the order! Still paying for the other kid who isnt in school or working.

Cross your fingers he gets a court date soon! Trial coordinators office wont return calls.
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Old 08-21-2018, 10:41 AM
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How old is the child that is not working or in school that you are still paying child support for? Do you know if she has plans for school this September?
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Old 08-21-2018, 11:38 AM
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18 and she has no plans for school until next year. Same thing happened for the first kid which extended the amount of cs past the timeline in their agreement. It is also the basis of the dispute currently before the court.

I am convinced that kid 1 wants to go back to school and the delay is so the ex can put together a case for both kids to have additional years of schooling paid for. Not sure why she does that since her portion of the expense is 70%.
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Old 10-30-2018, 03:33 PM
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Motion date tomorrow. Crossing my fingers the judge sees through the giant heap of bullshit the ex has thrown.

Quick question though...if the motion is tomorrow, what is the timeline on filing anything else? Another affidavit from someone not a party to the matter was filed Friday. It didnít come to the lawyer until today. Thats not proper filing correct? It would have had to be filed and served on him by Thursday at 3?
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Old 10-30-2018, 04:30 PM
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Fingers crossed for you too!


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Old 10-30-2018, 04:58 PM
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Motion date tomorrow. Crossing my fingers the judge sees through the giant heap of bullshit the ex has thrown.

Quick question though...if the motion is tomorrow, what is the timeline on filing anything else? Another affidavit from someone not a party to the matter was filed Friday. It didnít come to the lawyer until today. Thats not proper filing correct? It would have had to be filed and served on him by Thursday at 3?


Will be thinking of you!! Let us know how itís goes!!! Hopefully judge throws the pile of bs at the ex!!


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