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My ex and I are separated for 3 years, but do not have a signed agreement yet (working on it). The schedule we have had in place for our 6 year old son is the 2255 model: She has him M&Tu, I have him W&Th, and we alternate every other weekend (F-Su). This has worked well, with only minor disagreements. Most importantly, our son seems to be quite content and is experiencing no issues.
In the past several months, a pattern in emerging of my ex booking events on my evenings without my prior consent or knowledge. In some cases, I have gone along with it as it was best for my son (e.g. swimming lessons); however, I have pushed back many times. Despite calming discussing with her, and pushing back where I can, the pattern is continuing.
While I hope to have a final agreement in place before the end of the year, my fear (perhaps that is all it is), is that she is trying to establish herself as the primary custodian and me as the "visitation" style dad. Her standard of living is well above mine, as she's living with her parents in a large home, with lots of financial and other support. I also fear my son will prefer living with her for obvious reasons.
Until there is a formal agreement/order in place, I feel like I have no options. I protest as politely but firmly as I can, but she continues this course of action.
Any suggestions or links if this has been discussed before?
My ex and I are separated for 3 years, but do not have a signed agreement yet (working on it). The schedule we have had in place for our 6 year old son is the 2255 model: She has him M&Tu, I have him W&Th, and we alternate every other weekend (F-Su). This has worked well, with only minor disagreements. Most importantly, our son seems to be quite content and is experiencing no issues.
In the past several months, a pattern in emerging of my ex booking events on my evenings without my prior consent or knowledge. In some cases, I have gone along with it as it was best for my son (e.g. swimming lessons); however, I have pushed back many times. Despite calming discussing with her, and pushing back where I can, the pattern is continuing.
While I hope to have a final agreement in place before the end of the year, my fear (perhaps that is all it is), is that she is trying to establish herself as the primary custodian and me as the "visitation" style dad. Her standard of living is well above mine, as she's living with her parents in a large home, with lots of financial and other support. I also fear my son will prefer living with her for obvious reasons.
Until there is a formal agreement/order in place, I feel like I have no options. I protest as politely but firmly as I can, but she continues this course of action.
Any suggestions or links if this has been discussed before?
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