My ex is extremely intelligent, I've always known that. He's so clever, in fact that he's figured out a way to avoid child support; get himself let go of his job, go on EI and start a business. Yes, he was paying a portion of his EI as child support, but once he starts his business, I can't imagine he would have any resources left for support, and although we have joint custody, I have our son about 75% of the time.
We've only had our Separation Agreement drawn up for about 8 months, and already most of the details have been changed (through a mediator -Parenting Coach). He's no longer providing Extended Health Benefits (they were through his employer), not contributing to an RESP, and drastically reduced the amount of time he will take our son. I'm self employed, and allowed my imputed income to be valued at 1/4 of his income, based on projected income 5 years in the future. In reality, it is no where near that. He was to be 3/4 responsible for any extraordinary expenses -which there are many right now since our son is being tested & assessed for various learning disabilities, ADHD and possibly on the Autism Spectrum. I work completely around my son's schedule, ready to drive to the school if they call because they can't control him; I can't take a normal, 9-5 job because I'd be having to leave too often, or hire a qualified caregiver for special needs children to be on call -that cost would be ridiculous! I can't believe he's doing this right now.
I'm sure there is no way I, or any court can *make* him find work at a similar rate of pay he has been making steadily for the past few years, but is there any way I can stop him from making such a drastic change in his income at this time? He's been known to give up on endeavours in the past -quit Masters after 1st term after moving us across the country to attend, quit a job with great potential, we spent $10,000 on a career counsellor & took months not working to "find his dream career", but ended up not going to the seminars and found his own job in sales... Is this even worth talking to a lawyer about? I'm at my financial end -especially now that my support has been reduced by about 3/4.
We've only had our Separation Agreement drawn up for about 8 months, and already most of the details have been changed (through a mediator -Parenting Coach). He's no longer providing Extended Health Benefits (they were through his employer), not contributing to an RESP, and drastically reduced the amount of time he will take our son. I'm self employed, and allowed my imputed income to be valued at 1/4 of his income, based on projected income 5 years in the future. In reality, it is no where near that. He was to be 3/4 responsible for any extraordinary expenses -which there are many right now since our son is being tested & assessed for various learning disabilities, ADHD and possibly on the Autism Spectrum. I work completely around my son's schedule, ready to drive to the school if they call because they can't control him; I can't take a normal, 9-5 job because I'd be having to leave too often, or hire a qualified caregiver for special needs children to be on call -that cost would be ridiculous! I can't believe he's doing this right now.
I'm sure there is no way I, or any court can *make* him find work at a similar rate of pay he has been making steadily for the past few years, but is there any way I can stop him from making such a drastic change in his income at this time? He's been known to give up on endeavours in the past -quit Masters after 1st term after moving us across the country to attend, quit a job with great potential, we spent $10,000 on a career counsellor & took months not working to "find his dream career", but ended up not going to the seminars and found his own job in sales... Is this even worth talking to a lawyer about? I'm at my financial end -especially now that my support has been reduced by about 3/4.
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