So in my last post my ex handed over our daughter to me on a temp (three month period) because she could no longer handle her and whatever else.
She never filled out her forms for court and got an extension however we went to mediation and settled on the three month trial. (her idea) what we decided was that for the first few weeks she would only speak to her mom on the phone until she adjusted to her new home (in different city) then we would do visits every other weekend. There was no deal about over nights.... Since my daughter has come to stay with me a lot of abuse has come to light. Everything from spanking with hands and kitchen utensils to grabbing and slapping her face to the use of hot sauce being forced to swallow. She has told this to us, C.A.S and public health nurse ect. (there is more abuse sexual and other)
I am now concerned for her safety if she goes there for an over night visit as I will be two and a half hours away and cannot control what is done while I'm not there. My daughter is even saying that she doesn't want to be left alone because she is scared that if she is bad these things will happen.
Last Friday my daughter and her mom had a phone call. Her mom was asking her things like "do you not miss us anymore?" "when are you coming for an over night visit" and stuff like that, that should not be part of a conversation with a 5 year old. At the end our daughter said okay mom but if I come for a sleep over their is no hitting no spanking no hot sauce and no locking me in my room okay?... Her mom started freaking out and our daughter broke down. I ended there conversation right there and while my partner consoled my daughter I spoke to her mom about it.
Needless to say yesterday I received her form 10 as well as her form 35.1 via mail and fedex. None of the pages have the courts stamp on it. She is asking for sole custody with me having every other weekends. She is saying that I do not allow her to speak with her daughter on the phone and later says that when she was speaking t our daughter our daughter told her that she wishes to see and speak to her more often. She goes on to say we agreed on every other weekends and I have yet brought her for a visit. ..... I have been trying for over a week to arrange a day visit in their city for the Easter weekend but her mom won't give me an answer.
So my questions are....
1. Are these papers even valid as they have no stamp from the courts and all the papers I served her had to be stamped.
2. Does she have a leg to stand on in court asking for sole custody because her reasons are the I abused her and our daughter, I'm violent, haven't been around and am a drug addict (none are true) but she gave me our daughter without seeing my home or even a drug test?
3. How long do I have to reply and how do I have to serve her....special service or regular?
Thanks so much...
She never filled out her forms for court and got an extension however we went to mediation and settled on the three month trial. (her idea) what we decided was that for the first few weeks she would only speak to her mom on the phone until she adjusted to her new home (in different city) then we would do visits every other weekend. There was no deal about over nights.... Since my daughter has come to stay with me a lot of abuse has come to light. Everything from spanking with hands and kitchen utensils to grabbing and slapping her face to the use of hot sauce being forced to swallow. She has told this to us, C.A.S and public health nurse ect. (there is more abuse sexual and other)
I am now concerned for her safety if she goes there for an over night visit as I will be two and a half hours away and cannot control what is done while I'm not there. My daughter is even saying that she doesn't want to be left alone because she is scared that if she is bad these things will happen.
Last Friday my daughter and her mom had a phone call. Her mom was asking her things like "do you not miss us anymore?" "when are you coming for an over night visit" and stuff like that, that should not be part of a conversation with a 5 year old. At the end our daughter said okay mom but if I come for a sleep over their is no hitting no spanking no hot sauce and no locking me in my room okay?... Her mom started freaking out and our daughter broke down. I ended there conversation right there and while my partner consoled my daughter I spoke to her mom about it.
Needless to say yesterday I received her form 10 as well as her form 35.1 via mail and fedex. None of the pages have the courts stamp on it. She is asking for sole custody with me having every other weekends. She is saying that I do not allow her to speak with her daughter on the phone and later says that when she was speaking t our daughter our daughter told her that she wishes to see and speak to her more often. She goes on to say we agreed on every other weekends and I have yet brought her for a visit. ..... I have been trying for over a week to arrange a day visit in their city for the Easter weekend but her mom won't give me an answer.
So my questions are....
1. Are these papers even valid as they have no stamp from the courts and all the papers I served her had to be stamped.
2. Does she have a leg to stand on in court asking for sole custody because her reasons are the I abused her and our daughter, I'm violent, haven't been around and am a drug addict (none are true) but she gave me our daughter without seeing my home or even a drug test?
3. How long do I have to reply and how do I have to serve her....special service or regular?
Thanks so much...
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