I guess my divorce, as high-conflict as it was, has never reached the point of requiring an "access centre" to facilitate transfers, so I don't know how it is supposed to work.
Generally speaking:
(1) The higher the degree of conflict, the less flexible I would be when it comes to agreeing to stray from the terms of the court order. It was an error on your part to agree to change the transfer location.
(2) The less lawyered-up you are the more careful you must be in dealing with opposing counsel (OC). This means emailing them less. I don't know what you wrote to him. I know sometimes it's necessary to email OC, but in this case I would have just ignored his stupid requirements and written nothing. Your emails are a gold mine for OC to sift for anything he can use against you.
Show up at the BK with a camera. If she brings your kid, take him. If she does not bring your kid, take date & time-stamped pics of yourself standing there like a fool.
Denying you access to your son for 40 days despite a court order to the contrary is in my opinion tantamount to parental alienation, so you need to push for 50/50 parenting time to combat this. If you do plan to surrender to being an "access parent", at the very least don't agree to make it a final order/settlement. At min insist on a clause that requires parenting arrangements to be reviewed and varied without having to meet the material change in circumstances threshold.
Generally speaking:
(1) The higher the degree of conflict, the less flexible I would be when it comes to agreeing to stray from the terms of the court order. It was an error on your part to agree to change the transfer location.
(2) The less lawyered-up you are the more careful you must be in dealing with opposing counsel (OC). This means emailing them less. I don't know what you wrote to him. I know sometimes it's necessary to email OC, but in this case I would have just ignored his stupid requirements and written nothing. Your emails are a gold mine for OC to sift for anything he can use against you.
Show up at the BK with a camera. If she brings your kid, take him. If she does not bring your kid, take date & time-stamped pics of yourself standing there like a fool.
Denying you access to your son for 40 days despite a court order to the contrary is in my opinion tantamount to parental alienation, so you need to push for 50/50 parenting time to combat this. If you do plan to surrender to being an "access parent", at the very least don't agree to make it a final order/settlement. At min insist on a clause that requires parenting arrangements to be reviewed and varied without having to meet the material change in circumstances threshold.
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