Hi all,
Could really use some advice on this. My finace received the following email from his 14 year old daughter:
this may have grammar and spelling mistakes because this was done quickly just so I could get all my opinions and ideas out.
Dear [dad's first name],
I have made the decision to no longer see you. This decision was made because you have ignored, disappointed, used and lied to me. You were never meant to be a father which is quite clear because of your many neglected father responsibilities.
You are probably wondering 'where I am coming from'. Well there are several reasons as to why I am extremely frustrated (not to mention I should be doing my homework and chores right now).
One of the reasons is that you have used me, this is shown by you taking me to parties ([kamkatie]'s stupid 'family get togethers') that I don't want to go to. I may look happy for these occasions but that is just good acting. I know that the only reason you take me is that you want to show everyone how well behaved I am and how much you taught me(ya right, you have taught me NADA).
Thanks in advance,
kamkatie
Could really use some advice on this. My finace received the following email from his 14 year old daughter:
this may have grammar and spelling mistakes because this was done quickly just so I could get all my opinions and ideas out.
Dear [dad's first name],
I have made the decision to no longer see you. This decision was made because you have ignored, disappointed, used and lied to me. You were never meant to be a father which is quite clear because of your many neglected father responsibilities.
You are probably wondering 'where I am coming from'. Well there are several reasons as to why I am extremely frustrated (not to mention I should be doing my homework and chores right now).
One of the reasons is that you have used me, this is shown by you taking me to parties ([kamkatie]'s stupid 'family get togethers') that I don't want to go to. I may look happy for these occasions but that is just good acting. I know that the only reason you take me is that you want to show everyone how well behaved I am and how much you taught me(ya right, you have taught me NADA).
Now a large problem I am having with you is that you ignore what I do and say. A perfect example of this is when I had told you sooo many times that I HATE [kamkatie] and about two or three weeks later you and her are engaged and it isn't as if you just forgot what I said (that isn't something you just forget).
Something else that you have been doing quite frequently is disappointing me. You have been doing this by almost never coming to my games and the excuse for this is that you have come to two games (and that is alot of games?). You know what, I will just excuse you from not coming to see my first A game because your schedule is sooo busy (oh wait no). How can your little house league volleyball team, your 'big manager job', your cleaning job that is oh so busy and bringing 'the kids' to events (and I'm so sure that [kamkatie]'s fat kids play alot of sports that you have to take them to all of the time. Most of the things that you "commit" to just get dropped or you are late for them or way,way too early)?
Now because your puny brain can't understand what I am saying I will just let you know now that the problem is not [kamkatie] it is you! This was happening before you met [kamkatie] or even before you decided to walk out on our family.
The problem was not caused by my mom either, just because I live with her doesn't mean that I say and do whatever she does. I know that you said something to her because she came home the other night asking if she had done anything to make me feel the way I do about you (and I said to her that it was all [dad's first name]'s fault...meaning you) that kind of question doesn't just pop up out of the blue so I know you said something to her. LEAVE MY MOM OUT OF THIS. Just because you don't have the guts (or the brains) to solve your own problems doesn't mean you can pull my mom into it especially when she wants nothing to do with it at all it just adds extra stress in her life which could put the baby in danger.
I just want to end this feud between the both of us, I forget about you and you forget about me. I think that this relationship between the both of us is no longer serving a purpose and so I will never consider you as my father ever again and if you think that this is just some childish phase you are so incredibly wrong I want nothing to do with you ever again.
from,
[daughter's first name][daughter's "new" lastname] P.S. don't be stupid and keep sending me e-mails because I will not respond, don't think this is our new way of communicating.
We're wondering where to go from here. My fiance has been completely unable to contact his daughter (this email was sent sept'08). We still got her Christmas presents, just sent them to the house with her brother and sister and he has continued to call and try to see her to discuss what's going on. I'm looking for any suggestions/advice on where we go from here.Thanks in advance,
kamkatie
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