First-time poster. Recently signed divorce papers and I thought things were finally over. Ink was barely dry on the documents, when ex-husband decides to no longer pay our son's US college tuition costs (Minutes of Settlement state that we are both to pay proportionate amounts, yet he, our son and I agreed to split the tuition into thirds for payment). Here are the details:
- Son first stated goal of attending US NCAA Division 1 college as an athlete in 6th grade. Attend specialized sports program in nearest large city to us (about a 45 minute drive, one way) from 7th to 11th grade. Coaches told us to move him to advance in his chosen sport and to be closer to college recruiters.
- As a family, decided to send him to a prep/boarding school in another province for Grade 12 year. Ended up having a solid year, academically and athletically, but sustained a couple of injuries that kept him sidelined which negatively impacted his recruitment options. Since US colleges tend to like freshmen to be older (our Canadian birthday cutoffs for school are earlier than in the US), it was recommended that he do a "Post Graduate" year to get bigger, stronger, and to be seen by more college recruiters.
- Ended up getting recruited to a US college, is on an academic and athletic scholarship, and is in the starting lineup. Sorry for the long post, but I wanted to explain that this wasn't a "split second decision" to send him to this US college.
- Now in his Sophomore year, after 3 full semesters of college, my ex decided that our children "need to be treated fairly" so he will only pay the equivalent of what our daughter's university tuition costs (she lives with me, attends the local university and plans to apply for medical school) which is significantly less than the US tuition cost. This decision coincided exactly with him being audited by the CRA for a few thousand dollars. He ended up using the money he saved for the tuition to pay his CRA bill. I've paid the tuition for the 4th semester on my own so our son can stay at school. His coach has offered him a bit more money, but the costs are still too much for me alone.
- my lawyer sent my ex an email explaining his legal obligations and have given him 20 days to respond, and also sent the court application that will be filed to show him that I was serious. No response...any advice?
- Son first stated goal of attending US NCAA Division 1 college as an athlete in 6th grade. Attend specialized sports program in nearest large city to us (about a 45 minute drive, one way) from 7th to 11th grade. Coaches told us to move him to advance in his chosen sport and to be closer to college recruiters.
- As a family, decided to send him to a prep/boarding school in another province for Grade 12 year. Ended up having a solid year, academically and athletically, but sustained a couple of injuries that kept him sidelined which negatively impacted his recruitment options. Since US colleges tend to like freshmen to be older (our Canadian birthday cutoffs for school are earlier than in the US), it was recommended that he do a "Post Graduate" year to get bigger, stronger, and to be seen by more college recruiters.
- Ended up getting recruited to a US college, is on an academic and athletic scholarship, and is in the starting lineup. Sorry for the long post, but I wanted to explain that this wasn't a "split second decision" to send him to this US college.
- Now in his Sophomore year, after 3 full semesters of college, my ex decided that our children "need to be treated fairly" so he will only pay the equivalent of what our daughter's university tuition costs (she lives with me, attends the local university and plans to apply for medical school) which is significantly less than the US tuition cost. This decision coincided exactly with him being audited by the CRA for a few thousand dollars. He ended up using the money he saved for the tuition to pay his CRA bill. I've paid the tuition for the 4th semester on my own so our son can stay at school. His coach has offered him a bit more money, but the costs are still too much for me alone.
- my lawyer sent my ex an email explaining his legal obligations and have given him 20 days to respond, and also sent the court application that will be filed to show him that I was serious. No response...any advice?
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