This is just a vent. No advice needed. Just another one of those eye roll are you kidding me moments.
Partner has been subject to a few "you left us with so much crap" bitches for the last six months. Normally he takes them for what they are but the one this week really made him hurt. Which of course pisses me off even though it shouldnt.
While married, his ex never insisted on the kids doing chores. He did all the outside work and much of the cooking and cleaning (his work is tied to good weather so he was home a lot more than his ex). Not sure how the ex managed in the four years since the split or perhaps its a case of everything finally reached mountainous proportions.
So now hes getting bitchy comments from the kids on how much work the house is and how horrible their lives are because they have to do chores. Its funny because both our parents insisted we have responsibilities growing up so when my father left, as sucky as it was to have to shovel, mow, rake, clean, fix etc, it taught us how to do things how to work hard and how to take responsibility. I get not all parents expect their kids to do stuff but simple things like clean up after yourself would be important.
But the real focus of my vent is this: his ex insisted on staying in the house even with the expense and all the work. It was explained that all the debts would be offset against her equity in the house. Now all he hears is how broke they are how much work the house is how much they have to do to keep it clean etc. and how its all his fault. I get doing the general landscaping is a bitch but having to clean the house? Really? You live in a mess because you don't clean up after yourself. Dad shouldn't have been your maid!
I have a feeling that ex cant afford to hire people to do the work so now the kids have to cut the grass and rake leaves in addition to cleaning the house doing their own laundry etc.
Partner has been subject to a few "you left us with so much crap" bitches for the last six months. Normally he takes them for what they are but the one this week really made him hurt. Which of course pisses me off even though it shouldnt.
While married, his ex never insisted on the kids doing chores. He did all the outside work and much of the cooking and cleaning (his work is tied to good weather so he was home a lot more than his ex). Not sure how the ex managed in the four years since the split or perhaps its a case of everything finally reached mountainous proportions.
So now hes getting bitchy comments from the kids on how much work the house is and how horrible their lives are because they have to do chores. Its funny because both our parents insisted we have responsibilities growing up so when my father left, as sucky as it was to have to shovel, mow, rake, clean, fix etc, it taught us how to do things how to work hard and how to take responsibility. I get not all parents expect their kids to do stuff but simple things like clean up after yourself would be important.
But the real focus of my vent is this: his ex insisted on staying in the house even with the expense and all the work. It was explained that all the debts would be offset against her equity in the house. Now all he hears is how broke they are how much work the house is how much they have to do to keep it clean etc. and how its all his fault. I get doing the general landscaping is a bitch but having to clean the house? Really? You live in a mess because you don't clean up after yourself. Dad shouldn't have been your maid!
I have a feeling that ex cant afford to hire people to do the work so now the kids have to cut the grass and rake leaves in addition to cleaning the house doing their own laundry etc.
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