I've known my friend for more than 25 years. He's one of those people with "white knight syndrome" who tends to date people with extreme problems to help them. He's dated some interesting characters for sure.
He met his current spouse online; she was separated with a daughter from a previous marriage. The bio dad is out of the picture completely; no contact, no CS, no contact information for him. He lives somewhere in the US. When they met the daughter was around 2 years old. My friend has acted as a parent to her since then. They tried adoption but since she wasn't divorced yet it didn't happen.
His spouse is very aggressive, hostile and controlling. She has always been this way. When I was still married, my former spouse was a bit similar, and the two of them were friends for awhile but soon they were butting heads and had a falling out. His spouse is also in poor health, with chronic pain, blood disorders, migraines and such. She has lived on disability for a long time, although apparently she recently received medical clearance to return to work.
They got married 1 year ago after being together for almost 8 years. Until they were married they "dodged" common law status by claiming she was a renter in his home.
Now me and his friends are seeing strange things from his spouse. She is dating someone else, head over heels, posting excitedly on facebook, doing kinky lingerie photo shoots with her new BF (and posting them on facebook too errr) going to fantasia parties with him. No mention of her husband anymore.
Yet her husband works with me every day and apparently knows about her BF. He indicates things are "troubled" but nothing more. Apparently her BF comes over, showers and take takes his spouse out on dates while he is home.
I don't know how to handle this. I feel bad for him. He is toast if she leaves, yet it seems inevitable she will. It's also possible they are trying "open marriage" but if so I don't think he is really part of it.
He met his current spouse online; she was separated with a daughter from a previous marriage. The bio dad is out of the picture completely; no contact, no CS, no contact information for him. He lives somewhere in the US. When they met the daughter was around 2 years old. My friend has acted as a parent to her since then. They tried adoption but since she wasn't divorced yet it didn't happen.
His spouse is very aggressive, hostile and controlling. She has always been this way. When I was still married, my former spouse was a bit similar, and the two of them were friends for awhile but soon they were butting heads and had a falling out. His spouse is also in poor health, with chronic pain, blood disorders, migraines and such. She has lived on disability for a long time, although apparently she recently received medical clearance to return to work.
They got married 1 year ago after being together for almost 8 years. Until they were married they "dodged" common law status by claiming she was a renter in his home.
Now me and his friends are seeing strange things from his spouse. She is dating someone else, head over heels, posting excitedly on facebook, doing kinky lingerie photo shoots with her new BF (and posting them on facebook too errr) going to fantasia parties with him. No mention of her husband anymore.
Yet her husband works with me every day and apparently knows about her BF. He indicates things are "troubled" but nothing more. Apparently her BF comes over, showers and take takes his spouse out on dates while he is home.
I don't know how to handle this. I feel bad for him. He is toast if she leaves, yet it seems inevitable she will. It's also possible they are trying "open marriage" but if so I don't think he is really part of it.
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