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Originally posted by LostFather View PostYeah, it can be done, I've heard of it being done....but do it. My ex switched 8-10 different daycare providers, all of which she did not consult, and many times would not tell me, so I would show up at the current provider to pick up my children, no children. I would have to make phone calls or ask the last daycare provider if they knew here my children were. My ex admitted to this practice at trial, the judge did not bat an eye.
Going away for a week at a time and stick the children with a babysitter or acquaintances, anyone other than me, oh and I would not know of my children's whereabouts. This she admitted to. Judge says nothing about it.
Then when finally on one specific year (because she went away for either business or personal or reasons) we proved that I had the children almost 45% of the time, then she reverted to babysitters. When crossed by my lawyer, her quote was "yeah, and I made sure that doesn't happen again"
This was in reference to me having the children almost 50% of the time, and that if I was to gain 50% access she would lose her CS payments; she makes 10-15K more a year more a year than I do. She would stick the children in hotels and let staff "check in on them from time to time".
The court ordered telephone access, she would not let me speak to the children 10 out of 25 phone calls, many weeks I would go a week at a time with no contact with my children (I know there are worse cases out there) but to me it was disturbing that someone would withhold access whether it be by phone or other.
Anyway, this all went ignored by the judge. Oh, and all of these issues started at onset of separation. No history before. Her layer stated 1 month into separation "the parties can not get alone so joint custody will not work". My lawyer told me this a a comon tactic used by mothers wanting joint custody. His words not mine.
This is just the tip of the iceberg of issues raised.
Man that is tough. What are your arrangements now?
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Originally posted by LostFather View PostYeah, it can be done, I've heard of it being done....but do it. My ex switched 8-10 different daycare providers, all of which she did not consult, and many times would not tell me, so I would show up at the current provider to pick up my children, no children. I would have to make phone calls or ask the last daycare provider if they knew here my children were. My ex admitted to this practice at trial, the judge did not bat an eye.
Going away for a week at a time and stick the children with a babysitter or acquaintances, anyone other than me, oh and I would not know of my children's whereabouts. This she admitted to. Judge says nothing about it.
Then when finally on one specific year (because she went away for either business or personal or reasons) we proved that I had the children almost 45% of the time, then she reverted to babysitters. When crossed by my lawyer, her quote was "yeah, and I made sure that doesn't happen again"
This was in reference to me having the children almost 50% of the time, and that if I was to gain 50% access she would lose her CS payments; she makes 10-15K more a year more a year than I do. She would stick the children in hotels and let staff "check in on them from time to time".
The court ordered telephone access, she would not let me speak to the children 10 out of 25 phone calls, many weeks I would go a week at a time with no contact with my children (I know there are worse cases out there) but to me it was disturbing that someone would withhold access whether it be by phone or other.
Anyway, this all went ignored by the judge. Oh, and all of these issues started at onset of separation. No history before. Her layer stated 1 month into separation "the parties can not get alone so joint custody will not work". My lawyer told me this a a comon tactic used by mothers wanting joint custody. His words not mine.
This is just the tip of the iceberg of issues raised.
Man that is tough . What are your arrangements now ?
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Originally posted by representingself View PostGuys.... Please....
This thread was created to call attention to Mr. Nash, and his Marathon...
If you have personal questions/comments that are unrelated, PLEASE start a different thread!
Thank You...
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Originally posted by LostFather View PostI even wrote Alec Baldwin, whom wrote the book "A Promise To My Self". Where Mr Baldwin if were to get on board (maybe not likely) just might be a strong advocate on our side for change.
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I just corrected you so ppl can find out about it quickly. Sounds pretty interesting to me, I think he's right on the money how separation/divorce gets so ugly that usually rational people become totally irrational, regardless of how it is evident it is detrimental to the children involved.
I looked up some reviews on the book and they say it degenerates at times into some very negative comments, which detracts from the main purpose of the book, to create awareness of the flawed system of divorce.
I would still read it though, definitely.
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Write to your MP. Write to all MP's.
Two of the biggest groups who are against shared parenting are:
National Association of Women and the Law
Not in the Best Interests of Women and Children - An Analysis of Bill 422: An Act to Amend the Divorce Act
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The Canadian Bar Association
http://www.cba.org/CBA/submissions/pdf/10-43-eng.pdf
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