I counted, he has each second weekend with 3 overnights and each Wed 4 hours but we wrote out agreement so that in a year each wed will become overnight. In summer he has 2 weeks, all other holidays split 50/50. I counted excluding driving time and time he loses because of transportation on the weekends, If I drive one week and he drives one week per month or we split the distance or whatever we decide so child sees father two weeks per month and if I give 6 out of 8 weeks in summer and longs weekends like easter 2 out of 3, same with thanksgiving, more or less it all equals hours he has now. 3 out of 4 weekends I don't like because child needs to spend some weekends at home as school progresses, he will need to focus on homework, etc , I think giving more time in summer is better for my kid, I want to focus on his education and him to be successful. of course, worst comes to worst, I would give up all summer and 3 weekends out of 4 but I don't think this is so reasonable. Now we live in same town with child's father and still judge did not give him more access than what father got as described, and judge even told father on brink of trial that "mother was pretty generous with access" and did not encourage him to proceed with trial. Also, father wanted in our settlement agreement a clause that child can't visit US, he knew about my bf , and judge was angry and told him that it is ok to drive if mom sees a boyfriend,jugde felt she did not want to make my life difficult and said if i want to take a child during visits, it is fine and we settled it and I have clause where child can visit that state anytime with me without father's permission, but obviously only visit. )With all that being said, I took him there only 2 times and only go there when my child is not with me. When my child is with me, my fiance comes and we spend time here together.
I am talking about past case for custody battle right now, not about future one coming up which is a reason I opened this thread....but some thoughts of the judge through my previous case gave me understanding that they count my life of a young woman too and link child's needs and my needs to each other as we are so close and interdependent.
I am talking about past case for custody battle right now, not about future one coming up which is a reason I opened this thread....but some thoughts of the judge through my previous case gave me understanding that they count my life of a young woman too and link child's needs and my needs to each other as we are so close and interdependent.
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