My ex and I have been seperated for five months after I found out that he was having an affair. I moved out in Sept with our two children and one coming...(we had been living common law for 12 years) He has been fighting me on the sale of the house and child support. He hasn't gotten a lawyer yet but wants to decide what to pay and what percentage of the house he should get. I won't agree to his offer.
He has never argued over custody and rarely takes the children. Money is the only thing that he has been worried about in this battle. He had no problem leaving the kids with me. He has always been an out of town dad anyway and has not a clue how to be a full time father.
But now he has threathened to take me to court for custody if I don't lower child support payments and give him more than half of the the house. It's the only reason he is bringing up custody. (I haven't asked for full child support, any spousal support or pension might I add), but he still wants it lower and he makes three times my income.
He believes that if he has the kids half the time then he won't have to pay any support. He also mentioned getting married and taking the kids permanently (even though right now he has no girlfriend or a stable home for the kids). He leaves for work at five am and gets home after six and has mentioned getting a nanny or whatever it took to make sure he didn't have to pay child support. I work within walking distance of my kids school, home and daycare and am here for them.
I have no clue if he would be sucessful in a custody battle but the thought scares me to death. I can count how many times he has done their homework and taken them to the doctors. He is a heavy drinker and has a horrible mouth. He is nasty and the kids would only learn bad habits from him. I am so glad that my children are out of that atmosphere and I am sitting here sick to my stomache thinking that he could end up with shared custody. I would rather raise them on my own without anything from him. They would suffer for it dearly and it scares me.
Can someone please fill me in a little on custody battles and reassure me that this isn't going to happen to me. I have a baby coming in two weeks (a sick child at that) and the stress that this man is putting me through is really killing me.
He has never argued over custody and rarely takes the children. Money is the only thing that he has been worried about in this battle. He had no problem leaving the kids with me. He has always been an out of town dad anyway and has not a clue how to be a full time father.
But now he has threathened to take me to court for custody if I don't lower child support payments and give him more than half of the the house. It's the only reason he is bringing up custody. (I haven't asked for full child support, any spousal support or pension might I add), but he still wants it lower and he makes three times my income.
He believes that if he has the kids half the time then he won't have to pay any support. He also mentioned getting married and taking the kids permanently (even though right now he has no girlfriend or a stable home for the kids). He leaves for work at five am and gets home after six and has mentioned getting a nanny or whatever it took to make sure he didn't have to pay child support. I work within walking distance of my kids school, home and daycare and am here for them.
I have no clue if he would be sucessful in a custody battle but the thought scares me to death. I can count how many times he has done their homework and taken them to the doctors. He is a heavy drinker and has a horrible mouth. He is nasty and the kids would only learn bad habits from him. I am so glad that my children are out of that atmosphere and I am sitting here sick to my stomache thinking that he could end up with shared custody. I would rather raise them on my own without anything from him. They would suffer for it dearly and it scares me.
Can someone please fill me in a little on custody battles and reassure me that this isn't going to happen to me. I have a baby coming in two weeks (a sick child at that) and the stress that this man is putting me through is really killing me.
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