Thank you for letting me join your board. As a matter of being upfront, I’m in Manitoba. This, however, is the only forum I could find for Canadian divorce advice.
Apologies for the long post.
I’m feeling horrible in my marriage and am strongly contemplating separation / divorce, however I’m not sure what to do given my wife’s condition
MY wife’s physical situation is at a point of near full-on disability due to a genetic deterioration condition She can’t work much which is pushing our already bad financial situation to the limit. We’ve already re-mortgaged once. On top of that, we had a failed attempt at IVF and she wants to do a surrogacy which will be anywhere between 10 and 40k. In an ideal situation I’d love to have another kid but between her health and our finances I can’t see how it’s possible. Additionally our dog, 12 years old, is facing a couple thousand dollars in surgery and my wife wants to move, and quite honestly a higher mortgage will bankrupt us in a matter of weeks.
If the problems were just financial it would be one thing but I am mistreated in our marriage. She doesn’t realize how burnt out I am and if I do anything wrong or don’t put away something she says I’m childish, and if I lose my temper (which admittedly I do) she calls me asshole or a horrible person or something worse.
Compounding things are a sick dog and a daughter who is pushing our limits (as 4 year-olds do). Our daughter is at the age (4) of pushing us and testing us, normal of course, and I feel horrible because I’ve made her cry (not on purpose of course), and my wife is reacting poorly to her too, let alone I get berated in front of her and / or get yelled at for arguments in front of or near her.
I honestly feel like I want a divorce, but aside from having to provide spousal support in the best situation, it looks like I would have to pay higher spousal support because of her inability to work (as I’ve researched in a couple blogs).
I feel like I’m in a horrible rut. There are many days a week where I’m so sick to my stomach that I can’t eat more than one meal. Right now I’m away on business and I’m sitting in my hotel in the dark unable to do anything healthy for myself. I was looking at the trip as giving myself a break a bit but it’s actually left me feeling worse, because I keep getting texts that my daughter is giving my wife issues at home.
I can’t stop thinking about my financial situation and being in a life of unhappiness. If I felt like she would respond at all to couples counselling I would do it again but she won’t go.
So ultimately if anyone can provide advice or knowledge on spousal support for an ex with disabilities I would love it, any other advice is greatly appreciated of course.
Thanks for listening.
Apologies for the long post.
I’m feeling horrible in my marriage and am strongly contemplating separation / divorce, however I’m not sure what to do given my wife’s condition
MY wife’s physical situation is at a point of near full-on disability due to a genetic deterioration condition She can’t work much which is pushing our already bad financial situation to the limit. We’ve already re-mortgaged once. On top of that, we had a failed attempt at IVF and she wants to do a surrogacy which will be anywhere between 10 and 40k. In an ideal situation I’d love to have another kid but between her health and our finances I can’t see how it’s possible. Additionally our dog, 12 years old, is facing a couple thousand dollars in surgery and my wife wants to move, and quite honestly a higher mortgage will bankrupt us in a matter of weeks.
If the problems were just financial it would be one thing but I am mistreated in our marriage. She doesn’t realize how burnt out I am and if I do anything wrong or don’t put away something she says I’m childish, and if I lose my temper (which admittedly I do) she calls me asshole or a horrible person or something worse.
Compounding things are a sick dog and a daughter who is pushing our limits (as 4 year-olds do). Our daughter is at the age (4) of pushing us and testing us, normal of course, and I feel horrible because I’ve made her cry (not on purpose of course), and my wife is reacting poorly to her too, let alone I get berated in front of her and / or get yelled at for arguments in front of or near her.
I honestly feel like I want a divorce, but aside from having to provide spousal support in the best situation, it looks like I would have to pay higher spousal support because of her inability to work (as I’ve researched in a couple blogs).
I feel like I’m in a horrible rut. There are many days a week where I’m so sick to my stomach that I can’t eat more than one meal. Right now I’m away on business and I’m sitting in my hotel in the dark unable to do anything healthy for myself. I was looking at the trip as giving myself a break a bit but it’s actually left me feeling worse, because I keep getting texts that my daughter is giving my wife issues at home.
I can’t stop thinking about my financial situation and being in a life of unhappiness. If I felt like she would respond at all to couples counselling I would do it again but she won’t go.
So ultimately if anyone can provide advice or knowledge on spousal support for an ex with disabilities I would love it, any other advice is greatly appreciated of course.
Thanks for listening.
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