Hi Everyone,
I'm new to the forum. I was just wondering if anyone else on here has received a court ruling for split custody.
I'm the mom of 2 girls (ages 13 and 11). I previously had shared custody with their dad. He moved 2.5 hours away (for work...he landed his first full time job of his adult life. When we were married I was the breadwinner since his income was minimal as he was in the music business).
He encouraged my 13 year old to attend arts school in Toronto and completed applications with her without telling me. His intention was for her to move and for her younger sister to stay with me. I was against this because of the disruption that it would cause to her relationship with her sister, my relationship with her, as well as the relationship between my younger daughter and her father.
We received the judge's decision last Friday which ruled in favour of allowing my daughter to "follow her dream". The fall out from this has been massive already. Currently, the order has the girls seeing each other every weekend and requires that my ex and my older daughter spend 10 hours every weekend in on the 401. My daughter will reside with my ex in his one bedroom apartment...she gets the bedroom and he sleeps on the couch. He has never looked after either children without the help of his parents.
Needless to say, I was shocked at this ruling. My lawyer thinks the judge is testing my 13 year old and if she can withstand all the challenges...of being away from her sister and mom, living in a small apartment, spending all weekend on the 401...etc.. However, he was shocked as well. There is very little precedent supporting split custody unless there are exceptional circumstances.
The next case conference is at the end of November to determine how well she's doing in school (she has to maintain a B average) and how she is doing otherwise. What the judge didn't know, because my ex lied on his affidavit, was that there is no status quo to return to so if she's unhappy things will look quite different. His parents are selling their house and moving so my ex and the girls have nowhere to live if it is decided by the courts that this didn't work. If the girls really miss each other and my older daughter is happy in Toronto, there is the possibility that the judge will decide that actually split custody doesn't work and have her move to Toronto as well (since her sister will be established there). ...and they are taken away from the only stable parent they've ever known. My ex wants to "win" and although he wouldn't be capable of looking after 2 teenage girls he would again rely heavily on his elderly parents to enable this situation.
Anyway, I feel like very despondent regarding the court system.
Just wondering if I'm alone or if there is anyone on here that has experienced something similar...
JED
I'm new to the forum. I was just wondering if anyone else on here has received a court ruling for split custody.
I'm the mom of 2 girls (ages 13 and 11). I previously had shared custody with their dad. He moved 2.5 hours away (for work...he landed his first full time job of his adult life. When we were married I was the breadwinner since his income was minimal as he was in the music business).
He encouraged my 13 year old to attend arts school in Toronto and completed applications with her without telling me. His intention was for her to move and for her younger sister to stay with me. I was against this because of the disruption that it would cause to her relationship with her sister, my relationship with her, as well as the relationship between my younger daughter and her father.
We received the judge's decision last Friday which ruled in favour of allowing my daughter to "follow her dream". The fall out from this has been massive already. Currently, the order has the girls seeing each other every weekend and requires that my ex and my older daughter spend 10 hours every weekend in on the 401. My daughter will reside with my ex in his one bedroom apartment...she gets the bedroom and he sleeps on the couch. He has never looked after either children without the help of his parents.
Needless to say, I was shocked at this ruling. My lawyer thinks the judge is testing my 13 year old and if she can withstand all the challenges...of being away from her sister and mom, living in a small apartment, spending all weekend on the 401...etc.. However, he was shocked as well. There is very little precedent supporting split custody unless there are exceptional circumstances.
The next case conference is at the end of November to determine how well she's doing in school (she has to maintain a B average) and how she is doing otherwise. What the judge didn't know, because my ex lied on his affidavit, was that there is no status quo to return to so if she's unhappy things will look quite different. His parents are selling their house and moving so my ex and the girls have nowhere to live if it is decided by the courts that this didn't work. If the girls really miss each other and my older daughter is happy in Toronto, there is the possibility that the judge will decide that actually split custody doesn't work and have her move to Toronto as well (since her sister will be established there). ...and they are taken away from the only stable parent they've ever known. My ex wants to "win" and although he wouldn't be capable of looking after 2 teenage girls he would again rely heavily on his elderly parents to enable this situation.
Anyway, I feel like very despondent regarding the court system.
Just wondering if I'm alone or if there is anyone on here that has experienced something similar...
JED
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