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Originally posted by MommaBear73 View PostIn my case the father tried to block our move, even though he hadn't lived near us for years and the move was not affecting his access at all. He also asked for sole custody and move them to where he lives. The Judge told him I had 'Status Quo' and moving them to him would cause them more disruption to them then the move to our new house would so it was dismissed. It really depends on your situation.
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Mine currently states that I cannot move outside of Ontario without his permission. He is in the military so he can move wherever he likes, but as his new spouse has a clause in her divorce that she can't leave the city they live in he can't take a posting without it causing major problems. It's crazy.
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I thought your contract would be mutually binding? Or did you let him go b/c he needs to travel in order to work? I don't really care if I can't move but life is life, what if there are no jobs where I am, their dads aren't great at bread winning...and kids sure need hugs and such but good nutrition is also important.
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Nope, he did up the order after much discussion and I just signed it. I am not ever leaving Ontario, so I had no problem with it. He is currently trying to change said order. He doesn't feel he should pay the support that he is supposed to according the child support guidelines and wants to put a cap on it as well having me sign away any rights to involving the FRO. He is arrears and does not want them involved.
Your ability to provide a better life for your children is in their best interest and I would like to think that it would have bearing with a Judge, but I can't say for sure. It may just depend on the Judge you get. Seeing their fathers is important and in their best interest as well, but if the fathers aren't pulling their weight and only seeing them sporadically how is that good for the kids? Do they see them on a set schedule?
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Originally posted by Zhoozhelitsa View PostOh another question, Mommabear. You are saying you cannot leave Ontario without his permission. Assuming you are employed, would your employer still be able to send you on a business related trip outside of Ontario?
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What do you mean he doesn't feel like paying? Is it an option?
They have a verbally set schedule of sorts. My daughter used to see her dad every weekend but now that she is older, she prefers her girlfriends instead. So maybe 2 weekends a month at the most. They just hang out. That, and child support, is all he has to provide.
My son's dad has him every other weekend and also every now and then during the week, whenever he feels like it or sometimes to babysit him if I have to run errands. They just go out, have fun and play.
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Originally posted by MommaBear73 View PostI am a SAHM at the moment as I have a 4 month old. I can leave the province for a business trip if I want, I just can't move the kids out of here. Also, in his 'new' order he wants me to ask his permission if I want to leave the province with them even just to go visit friends for a few days.
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Originally posted by MommaBear73 View PostI am a SAHM at the moment as I have a 4 month old. I can leave the province for a business trip if I want, I just can't move the kids out of here. Also, in his 'new' order he wants me to ask his permission if I want to leave the province with them even just to go visit friends for a few days.
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From what I have been told, no Judge would order what he is asking for. The only way it would go through is if I agree to it, which I won't. He's quite mad at me right now as the first time I pretty much agreed to everything as I had no lawyer and no clue what my rights were.
I do have someone here to watch my kiddies, so am not sure how I would cope if I were in your situation. How long is the internship?
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It's 1 year long and it's a lottery so if the computer spits out a town, I have to go there unless there are some crazy personal circumstances. So I'm looking into options, just what you suggested - a counsellor and a lawyer. If I have to go, it's going to be unpleasant for everyone. There's no one around here to watch them but dads and I'm not too comfortable with that. Plus, they'll have to be separated, moved in with dads etc.
If I knew this would happen, I probably wouldn't have started with school. But it's too late now, it's a prof degree, if I drop out, I'll be paying OSAP back for the rest of my life instead of saving for my kids' future.
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