I don't know where to go from here. My ex is asking for the whole house, and about 75% of our assets. I am asking for a 50% division of our assets.
We had a jcc a few months ago and her lawyer did all the talking, my ex didn't say a word. I am self repping and i tried to at least get a consent order for the things we agreed to in principle. i was shut down at every turn.
The only thing they wanted was for a 5 day trial to be set, because they figure "she" is going to need "at least" three days to present her side. the master also stated that she was not going to order us to mediation because our sides were too far apart, and that it wasn't a good place to start any kind of mediation. her words were that mediation would be inappropriate in this case.
in any case, im pretty low income and i can't afford mediation anyways. i was hoping to be able to negotiate a settlement by email.
fast forward a month, and i suddenly get an email from the lawyer stating that they wanted to know if i would be willing to mediate, and they suggested a mediator who is a feminist, and works with abused women, and also is an arbitrator. i was uncomfortable with that and smelled a rat, because she falsely obtained a protection order against me. this mediator would have been clearly been biased against me, and they would have tried to trap me into an arbitration.
i sent them an email back restating my position saying that after a ten yr relationship 50% is fair, and that based on what the master said at our jcc i was inclined to agree that mediation would not be appropriate. i invited them to carefully consider my email, and to instruct her client on the ramifications of purgery and contempt of court, because of her false allegations. i recieved nothing back.
I sent another email yesterday expressing my willingness and desire to settle this case, and they sent one back today stating that she too desires to settle the case, but that they will not be accepting any offer showing a 50% division of assets.
we have no children. i don't know where to go from here. i want to file an application under the partition act to force the sale of the house, but im unsure how to proceed. there are other assets too that need to be decided. an application as i understand it is for temporary orders, but i am asking for a final decision on the house, and i also want to include the vehicle and rv we also own. im not sure whats appropriate. also im not sure how to word it. all in all in one application i would be asking for compensatory ss, the vehicle, and rv. and finally for the house to be divided.
i really feel like were at a stalemate and the only option to move forward is an application (im in bc) but im just not sure where to go from here. i could really use some advice. thanks in advance.
We had a jcc a few months ago and her lawyer did all the talking, my ex didn't say a word. I am self repping and i tried to at least get a consent order for the things we agreed to in principle. i was shut down at every turn.
The only thing they wanted was for a 5 day trial to be set, because they figure "she" is going to need "at least" three days to present her side. the master also stated that she was not going to order us to mediation because our sides were too far apart, and that it wasn't a good place to start any kind of mediation. her words were that mediation would be inappropriate in this case.
in any case, im pretty low income and i can't afford mediation anyways. i was hoping to be able to negotiate a settlement by email.
fast forward a month, and i suddenly get an email from the lawyer stating that they wanted to know if i would be willing to mediate, and they suggested a mediator who is a feminist, and works with abused women, and also is an arbitrator. i was uncomfortable with that and smelled a rat, because she falsely obtained a protection order against me. this mediator would have been clearly been biased against me, and they would have tried to trap me into an arbitration.
i sent them an email back restating my position saying that after a ten yr relationship 50% is fair, and that based on what the master said at our jcc i was inclined to agree that mediation would not be appropriate. i invited them to carefully consider my email, and to instruct her client on the ramifications of purgery and contempt of court, because of her false allegations. i recieved nothing back.
I sent another email yesterday expressing my willingness and desire to settle this case, and they sent one back today stating that she too desires to settle the case, but that they will not be accepting any offer showing a 50% division of assets.
we have no children. i don't know where to go from here. i want to file an application under the partition act to force the sale of the house, but im unsure how to proceed. there are other assets too that need to be decided. an application as i understand it is for temporary orders, but i am asking for a final decision on the house, and i also want to include the vehicle and rv we also own. im not sure whats appropriate. also im not sure how to word it. all in all in one application i would be asking for compensatory ss, the vehicle, and rv. and finally for the house to be divided.
i really feel like were at a stalemate and the only option to move forward is an application (im in bc) but im just not sure where to go from here. i could really use some advice. thanks in advance.
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