Hi there
This may sound obvious or easy to everyone else but I really need advice for my situation. I've been married for over 10 yrs, it isn't for the right reason and I am never truly happy no matter how much both of us tried. We have no children but we are also not financially well off. We both own a house and a business that is Incorporated that we just started a few years ago.
I want to start over and I feel separation is the best for us both since I am not happy and I can’t make him happy.
Now I am still looking for a job, because the business just started, not much income from it yet. If I still need to stay in the matrimonial home, until I can afford a new place, will the court allow this or they will leave it to his decision? He has always been the breadwinner. I did work full time, before the business started but I also have personal debts to pay. If I want to sell the house and he doesn’t want to, which side will the court take? Knowing him, I don’t think staying under the same roof after separation is a good idea, but I have to consider that option until my money situation improves.
Also, I read that it’s a good idea to sit down and talk about separation and come up to agreement before getting Independent Advice. What if talks is not possible? I have slept in separate bedroom for a few weeks and he doesn’t seem to get the clue. He is somewhat self denial, hard to talk to. He is never violent at me, but he does destroy things (including my things) when upset. As much as I want separation, I want what is fair for both of us. Part of my debts, he caused it. But he also helps pay it now that I don’t have much money coming in. I know that 50-50 is not fair, since being breadwinner, he contributes more than I do all these years. Can I leave it to the court to decide what is fair, or should I try talk to him first ? I am not planning for re-marry and not involved with anyone else at this moment, so I don't think divorce is necessary unless he'd rather divorce than separate.
I’m really confused. Please help. Sorry if I post this in the wrong section.
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