I've been with him for 12 years, 8 of which, married.
He did not provider much financially.
He didn't do anything at home to help nor did he do anything to help my carreer, to the contrary, he even discouraged me from getting a promotion.
We have no kids.
He was fully able to work... He kept telling me he'd look for work. He did work once in a while, then would quit because the work wa below him.
He was a good talker. Made me believe I was useless, unable to function without him.
And I'm skipping the whole chapter about him not wanting any sex and talking down about my family and friends.
I suggested couples counseling years ago, he didn't want to go.
I went. I took therapy thinking if I become a better person, easier to live with, it might help.
Then one day without thinking about it before hand, not having planned anything, the words came out of my mouth to my own surprise: I'm done - we're done.
That was Christmas Eve 2009.
Since then he refused to sign any separation paper. He doesn't disagree to get a divorce, but he doesn't do anything! Mind you, all we have together are debts because mister was too lazy to work.
Now he wants Spousal Support.
Seriously??
Why would I pay him any Spousal Support??
He freeloaded from me for years, now he's on social assistance while he's doing his GED at 41 years old. I kept suggesting to him to go back to school while I was paying everything, but no, he wasn't up to it. Now since the government will pay for him while he's in school, you and I, tax payers, we're all supporting him. But again... why should I pay Spousal Support??
He did not provider much financially.
He didn't do anything at home to help nor did he do anything to help my carreer, to the contrary, he even discouraged me from getting a promotion.
We have no kids.
He was fully able to work... He kept telling me he'd look for work. He did work once in a while, then would quit because the work wa below him.
He was a good talker. Made me believe I was useless, unable to function without him.
And I'm skipping the whole chapter about him not wanting any sex and talking down about my family and friends.
I suggested couples counseling years ago, he didn't want to go.
I went. I took therapy thinking if I become a better person, easier to live with, it might help.
Then one day without thinking about it before hand, not having planned anything, the words came out of my mouth to my own surprise: I'm done - we're done.
That was Christmas Eve 2009.
Since then he refused to sign any separation paper. He doesn't disagree to get a divorce, but he doesn't do anything! Mind you, all we have together are debts because mister was too lazy to work.
Now he wants Spousal Support.
Seriously??
Why would I pay him any Spousal Support??
He freeloaded from me for years, now he's on social assistance while he's doing his GED at 41 years old. I kept suggesting to him to go back to school while I was paying everything, but no, he wasn't up to it. Now since the government will pay for him while he's in school, you and I, tax payers, we're all supporting him. But again... why should I pay Spousal Support??
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