Hi
Two years ago my CL spouse move into another bedroom with the intent of moving out. Since then she has had other relationships but has not left. She was working part time 20 hr/wk but quite due to conflicts with other employees. She has substance abuse problems and has recently been charged with DUI.
We have two kids in primary school. They attend day care allowing their mother to work or study. I do all the home work, 90% of the extra-cirricular activites and get the kids to school on time. She does half of the cooking, cleaning, shopping etc. I will be doing the shopping now she can't drive. She has enrolled in a night course which runs 4 nights a week plus Saturday. At this point I'm the primary care giver.
I'd like her to have access to the kids but not 50%. This would not be good for their education and would limit other activities. She does not interact with them more than 10 minutes a day, doesn't say Hi or Bye when they come and go. Further she smokes in the garage and basement but may expose them to this directly if they lived in an appartment.
I paid for the house and all its up keep but registered it in both our names(seemed the right thing to do at the time). I want her to leave but want to stay in the house. I could take a loan and buy her out. This would give her $250k. Would this limit any spousal support claims? She has not given up a career to raise kids. After moving in together she went to University while I paid the bills. Since having kids she has taken numerous night school course or worked part-time evenings and weekends while I looked after the kids. She's had ample opportunity to develop skills or career but it hasn't worked out.
I'd appreciate any advice on expectations and processes.
thanks
T
Two years ago my CL spouse move into another bedroom with the intent of moving out. Since then she has had other relationships but has not left. She was working part time 20 hr/wk but quite due to conflicts with other employees. She has substance abuse problems and has recently been charged with DUI.
We have two kids in primary school. They attend day care allowing their mother to work or study. I do all the home work, 90% of the extra-cirricular activites and get the kids to school on time. She does half of the cooking, cleaning, shopping etc. I will be doing the shopping now she can't drive. She has enrolled in a night course which runs 4 nights a week plus Saturday. At this point I'm the primary care giver.
I'd like her to have access to the kids but not 50%. This would not be good for their education and would limit other activities. She does not interact with them more than 10 minutes a day, doesn't say Hi or Bye when they come and go. Further she smokes in the garage and basement but may expose them to this directly if they lived in an appartment.
I paid for the house and all its up keep but registered it in both our names(seemed the right thing to do at the time). I want her to leave but want to stay in the house. I could take a loan and buy her out. This would give her $250k. Would this limit any spousal support claims? She has not given up a career to raise kids. After moving in together she went to University while I paid the bills. Since having kids she has taken numerous night school course or worked part-time evenings and weekends while I looked after the kids. She's had ample opportunity to develop skills or career but it hasn't worked out.
I'd appreciate any advice on expectations and processes.
thanks
T
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