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Old 12-15-2011, 11:04 PM
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great advice,
thank you all for the sound reasoning. I will call my union rep and hopefully she will assist me with approaching my manager/HR.

I have asked in email twice and verbally several times to arrange to get my stuff back: some of it he took when he moved out and others he has in a garage where we stored stuff when we began cohabitating. It contains jewellery, kitchen and bedroom stuff, miscellaneous items. Some of it was from my mother, who passed away last summer. He knows how important it is to me. Only he has the keys and it is on a property in his name= he has told me I will be arrested if I go there.

As far as the kids go, I know I should call CAS, but am very concerned that I will be in trouble for not reporting sooner. In fact, the breakup occured during the court case for his kids" custody and access case. I did not disclose any of the problems to the OCL. THat is mainly why he is blackmailing me...he had criminal harassment conviction against his ex wife and is worried about losing his kids.

He has been great with one of my children but my 17 year old (who is in the habit of arguing back, but not too much) he could not get along with. My ex had difficulty because he demands absolute and instantaneous obedience from kids. He also does not consider homework or any academic pursuits as important as my son (who is planning to attend medical school). It came to my attention the week he left that he even told my son he would "kick the shit out of you and if you tell your mother, I will make sure you are homelss". THe police were called as he eventually hit my son when he would not change the tv channel.

Anyway, this morning we went out to the car, my sons car had all the hubcaps taken and there is brakeline fluid on the ground. THis after my ex found out I was dating someone and said he never wants to see me again. \This could be coincedence but after knowing that he followed his ex wife and putting a GPS tracker on her car and taping phone calls, I am suspicious. He always tell us that he could make her death look like an accident and he could kill her with no second thoughts.

So, my family feels that he is very controlling and are worried about his actions. I have no proof, so feel the police will not take me seriously. I do have phone messages saying things like "I have called you six times today. Carry your cell and answer it when I call". I am not just a bitter ex, only a scared and frustrated one.

I think I just want to walk away and forget all of this, except my personal stuff. He will be very pissed if I try to maintain contact with his kids.