"When my kids are with my ex he can do whatever he likes" and then you find your kids dead in a ditch and say "Oh, I should have been more careful"
The same is true of your ex. I find it highly amusing that you think you have any right to determine who your ex has around your children. You don't and if you keep going don't that road, you'll continue on your path to becoming increasingly more frustrated and bitter. I don't believe for one second that this is about you protecting your children. Its about your feelings of loss of control and your boundary issues.
The truth is that you live under the assumption that the court was wrong when it determined that your ex was competent to be a parent and so you're still trying to find justification to interfere with and influence that decision. The bottom line is that you can't. She is the children's mother and has every legal right afforded that role. You need to accept that or you'll continue in this unhealthy direction.
I have 2 sets of cousins that went through divorce 3/4 of the kids are pretty messed - one almost died from drug related issue, one was thrown in jail, one has other "weird" issues and only one is normal.
The platitude that "The Kids will be fine" is BS told to divorcing parents to make them feel like they arent wrecking their kids lives but thats not the truth.
The platitude that "The Kids will be fine" is BS told to divorcing parents to make them feel like they arent wrecking their kids lives but thats not the truth.
My kids are worth my paranoia, worth my life, worth my time and worth my investigation - if I have to call into question every single aspect of divorce, family law, custody, child support etc.... for them and in some cases for myself then I will do it, if you don't like it then don't sign up to my fan club. I don't care if parliament though child support should be this and spousal support should be that - I'll question this and question that - you can keep your blinders on and pursue happiness.
I find it highly amusing that you think that getting divorced is just about the person deciding to do it. One of the main reasons I got divorced was to improve the quality of life for my children. They lived in a very broken home with parents that didn't care about each other and were too distracted to parent effectively. While I couldn't fix my ex, I could fix that and did and as a result, today I have highly successful, well-adjusted children. Insulting people who determine that divorce is the best course of action for themselves and their children is a constant theme with you.
You keep insulting me, and it makes me thing you are the one the problems. I'm VERY happy to have gotten out of marriage with SAHM 5 years in, ask the long-term SAHM on this forum how much their ex-husbands are paying them for how many years, i feel like i struck the lottery!
It wasn't an insult to suggest that you need some help. I simply find your obsession over child molestation extremely disturbing. You've had this type of thread before (ie. the "Lolita book thread). I found your comments very odd then and find this thread equally strange. By all means, if you have some indications that your child is being abused, then you should investigate. But to assume that all male step-parents and that you should take some pre-emptive action regarding your ex's personal life is ridiculous. Parents have to be vigilant to a variety of threats that children face in life but your fixation strikes me as abnormal.
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