Hi all,
Just a question regarding something in my separation agreement.
The amended agreement was signed in December 2017, so it has been well under a year.
At the time, ex and I agreed on a set out budget for recreational sports as well as what they would be.
Ex had a clause put in the agreement stipulating that he would not agree to “any further increase in the children’s budget for recreational sports”.
This summer he asked me to split the costs of summer sports camp with him. I said no as it was occurring on his time and was not in the agreed upon budget.
Now, he is asking to enrol our child in an additional house league sport (he’s already in house league hockey) for the whole fall/winter (also not in the agreed upon sports or budget).
I have said no to this but told him I would completely support this new sport happening in the spring, just not at the same time as another house league sport.
We have a clause in the agreement that states we will attend an hour of mediation, after which the mediator would become arbitrator and make a decision.
Am I bound to this clause? Do I have to agree to attend since it’s written there?
I feel like it is purely a control issue on my ex’s part. He hates hockey and wishes his kid wasn’t in it. My child is being told that I am holding him back and that two sports is completely fine but my concerns are: - family life/sports balance, being able to afford it, and concerns that my son (who is on an IEP) will suffer academically with commitments to two separate teams.
He wrote to the mediator and cc’d me today so he is serious. Anyone have any experience with these kind of dispute resolution clauses? How can they get a sense of the whole dynamic and then make a decision in one hour?
Thoughts please.
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Just a question regarding something in my separation agreement.
The amended agreement was signed in December 2017, so it has been well under a year.
At the time, ex and I agreed on a set out budget for recreational sports as well as what they would be.
Ex had a clause put in the agreement stipulating that he would not agree to “any further increase in the children’s budget for recreational sports”.
This summer he asked me to split the costs of summer sports camp with him. I said no as it was occurring on his time and was not in the agreed upon budget.
Now, he is asking to enrol our child in an additional house league sport (he’s already in house league hockey) for the whole fall/winter (also not in the agreed upon sports or budget).
I have said no to this but told him I would completely support this new sport happening in the spring, just not at the same time as another house league sport.
We have a clause in the agreement that states we will attend an hour of mediation, after which the mediator would become arbitrator and make a decision.
Am I bound to this clause? Do I have to agree to attend since it’s written there?
I feel like it is purely a control issue on my ex’s part. He hates hockey and wishes his kid wasn’t in it. My child is being told that I am holding him back and that two sports is completely fine but my concerns are: - family life/sports balance, being able to afford it, and concerns that my son (who is on an IEP) will suffer academically with commitments to two separate teams.
He wrote to the mediator and cc’d me today so he is serious. Anyone have any experience with these kind of dispute resolution clauses? How can they get a sense of the whole dynamic and then make a decision in one hour?
Thoughts please.
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