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Originally posted by ensorcelled View PostThat last paragraph is hilariously wrong.
Law schools may be tipping to have more female students, but most law firm partners, law school deans, judges and tenured law profs are male. You're still at the top of the food chain no matter how you slice the admissions process...
And please share an actual statistics that show that women get more 'sole custody' than men. Did you read the Motherrisk report? Most people who got their children taken away were women, not fathers.
http://motheriskcommission.ca/wp-content/uploads/Report-of-the-Motherisk-Commission.pdf
According to Statistics Canada - http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/f...at2000/p4.html - Mothers are awarded sole custody in 79.3% of the cases, and men are awarded it in 6.6% of the cases. That is a pretty huge discrepancy.
As for military casualties, you should check out the research by Andrea Lane at Dalhousie: http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/...20702017741910 (among others).
Men are more likely to be in upper-level roles in the military, hence higher salaries, pensions and better benefits.
Men are more likely to be doing procurement contracting, building ships and planes, sourcing guns and weaponry, get hired for lobbying, and all the benefits that come from those stable military-centered jobs than women are.
The fact that there are more men as officers has everything to do with there are more men in the military. There are many female officers, more so per capita then men.
Men are statistically more likely to be construction and in general labour, so that they are involved in ship/plane building and other labour roles has nothing to do with people being held back, but simply career choices.
So yes, you may have more casualties than women, but men benefit way more from military jobs and military life than women can ever imagine.
As for the shelters, you realise this is because women need family units more than they need individual units, yes?
Domestic violence is overwhelmingly committed towards woman than the other way around.
On topic?
I never said staying in one place was a bad thing, but that in reality, women (who overwhelmingly do not benefit from divorce financially even if they are getting child support) have to often move to better their lives. You're assuming that such a move would upend the lives of the child(ren) to the point where they would be alienated from their fathers. All of these need to be taken on a case-by-case basis but starting from 'Most law school students are women!' isn't helping move the equality needle, or affirming what the best interests of the child is.
As for having to move, no one said the OP (who has already moved on from getting their answer) couldn't move. It is just they could not move with the kids. You make it sound like there is some default assumption that females are the ones to get the kids (affirming my point about the custody stats). And it isn't about alienation, it is about the maintaining maximum contact between each parent, because statistics that children do better when both their parents play meaningful roles their lives. And it is difficult, if not impossible, to maintain a meaningful role when the child live in different countries.
And I say this as someone whose ex is moving in a couple months. She is moving to a better role for herself and I am fully supporting it. She is moving about 50 minutes away, when she used to be 30 minutes away. It will impact my parenting time, but my ex is understanding and has already agreed to compensate me with extra time elsewhere. I completely support the want to better one self, but I don't support the presumed notion that one sex is entitled to custody or to remove the ability for the children to have a meaningful relationship with both of their parents.Last edited by HammerDad; 03-21-2018, 05:05 PM.
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-That link / statistic about sole custody is from 1994-1999. Most people going through family court right now were born around that time.
-Law school deans who are women: http://www.ccld-cdfdc.ca/ (spolier: not many)
Law partners who are women: 17%
http://practice.findlaw.com/human-re...wl-report.html
Female judges (good lord this is sad) http://www.fja.gc.ca/appointments-no...juges-eng.aspx
-I don't understand your point about the military, other than to prove mine. You said that women are outpacing men in all kinds of areas but clearly this isn't the case here at all, either in the military itself, or in the surrounding industries that support it.
We've had 158 casualties since Afghanistan and YES, many more came home with long-term health issues/setbacks. This doesn't escape my point above that he military is overall dominated by men, making money for and by men and led by men. There are of course risks with that, but military nurses and orderlies are nowhere near those salaries.
Yuu seriously need proof / links that women are abused more than men in intimate relationships?!
Women are overwhelmingly on the receiving end of abuse (financial, emotional, physical, sexual, etc). Obviously there are exceptions but the shelter system deals with all kinds of community needs from addiction, mental health, etc. Where is your statistic about the male-only needs (like, do male addicts need a gender specific shelter?) and if it's in such dire straits why is the homeless strategy not sounding major alarm bells?
https://www.canada.ca/en/employment-...gstrategy.html
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Women fare worse financially than men in divorce. Period. Your race to the bottom statement flies in the face of all kinds of research, with shared parenting, no children and maintenance variables factored in:
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeands...women-research
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeands...n-relationship
http://www.thelawcorner.com/news/1-5...ivorce-poverty
https://globalnews.ca/news/3377381/h...your-finances/
I don't support the presumed notion that one sex is entitled to custody or to remove the ability for the children to have a meaningful relationship with both of their parents.
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Originally posted by ensorcelled View Post-That link / statistic about sole custody is from 1994-1999. Most people going through family court right now were born around that time.
-Law school deans who are women: http://www.ccld-cdfdc.ca/ (spolier: not many)
Law partners who are women: 17%
http://practice.findlaw.com/human-re...wl-report.html
Female judges (good lord this is sad) http://www.fja.gc.ca/appointments-nominations/judges-juges-eng.aspx
-I don't understand your point about the military, other than to prove mine.
You said that women are outpacing men in all kinds of areas but clearly this isn't the case here at all, either in the military itself, or in the surrounding industries that support it.
They make up 56% of veterinarians https://www.canadianveterinarians.net/about/statistics .
For doctors under the age of 44, they make up 54% https://www.cma.ca/Assets/assets-lib...ge-sex-prv.pdf
So for 50% of the population, there are fields that women do have a higher percentage of and it is a growing trend. And I am also not going to suggest that is a bad thing. Each gender generally leans towards certain roles. Men are more likely to be in labour, factory and military roles.
We've had 158 casualties since Afghanistan and YES, many more came home with long-term health issues/setbacks. This doesn't escape my point above that he military is overall dominated by men, making money for and by men and led by men. There are of course risks with that, but military nurses and orderlies are nowhere near those salaries.
Yuu seriously need proof / links that women are abused more than men in intimate relationships?!
stats for reported intimate partner violence show women are about 4-5x more likely to be victims of IPV.
Women are overwhelmingly on the receiving end of abuse (financial, emotional, physical, sexual, etc). Obviously there are exceptions but the shelter system deals with all kinds of community needs from addiction, mental health, etc. Where is your statistic about the male-only needs (like, do male addicts need a gender specific shelter?) and if it's in such dire straits why is the homeless strategy not sounding major alarm bells?
https://www.canada.ca/en/employment-...gstrategy.html
Males make up nearly 73% of the homeless in Canada - http://homelesshub.ca/sites/default/..._20Oct2016.pdf
Males are over 3 times more likely to commit suicide - https://www.statcan.gc.ca/pub/82-624.../11696-eng.htm and post divorce that men are 2 times more likely to commit suicide than the nation average, while there is no statistical difference for women than the nation average - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/art...v054p00254.pdf
Men simply die younger. There are a lot of factors in this one, but the fact that men make up a large portion of the hazardous and dangerous jobs is likely one of the larger contributing factors.
That men are more likely to have mental health issues - http://www.camh.ca/en/hospital/about...tatistics.aspx
And again, as I have said over and over, both sexes have issues and benefits. It is what it is.
Finances:
Women fare worse financially than men in divorce. Period. Your race to the bottom statement flies in the face of all kinds of research, with shared parenting, no children and maintenance variables factored in:
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeands...women-research
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeands...n-relationship
http://www.thelawcorner.com/news/1-5...ivorce-poverty
https://globalnews.ca/news/3377381/h...your-finances/
You're assuming this can only happen if they live near each other and have 50-50 'equal' custody, right?
Me, I see my kid regularly. I am involved in her activities and life. I take her to dance and her riding lessons, I go to parent teacher meetings, take her to hospital when she is sick. These are things I wouldn't be able to do if my ex lived in another country. Theses are the little things that we call "parenting". They aren't the glory jobs, but they are necessary to build the bonds between parents and children.
Edit - this has gone way off topic at this point. This isn't about a pissing match of who has it better or worse between sexes. It is about whether or not it is in the kids best interests to be removed from their familiar surroundings and other parent. The sex of that parent is irrelevant.Last edited by HammerDad; 03-22-2018, 09:59 AM.
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This has gotten really extreme.
CHECK IT OUT EXTREME CHEDDAR!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=os-hesdDVB4
(Somebody should do something. )
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