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Old 08-29-2019, 01:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Bananie View Post
he refused to entertain divorce or separation
You do not need his agreement to get divorced. You just do it.

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I feel like he will make my life hellish if I go down the divorce route, esp. with the kids, and I really really don't want that.
The question is not whether divorce would be bad. The question is whether divorce would be worse than the current situation. His ability to make your life hellish is more limited than you might think.

Divorce is bad for two reasons:

1) Financially, it is a big hit

2) You lose some control over your kids

but... with #2, you also gain some control over your kids because while they are with you your ex spouse has almost no say in what you do. It is kinda awesome.
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