I am following what I think is good sound advice - I just bought one of those voice recorders and I noticed it beeps with every button push. The right thing to do??
- Tell the stbx i have this personal recording device and it will be used to record our interactions?
- am I better off to not to say a word and just leave the thing running the four hours every night and oops, we still arre sleeping in the same room so that might mean just leave the thing running - just in case anyway? (I did notice it has a power take off for ac power supply so an overnight record won't kill the batteries!
Related to the above: May be the Bigger or the Biggest issue???
(this part is a tad long - could go into the children section but...)
I had taken my youngest (actually she wanted my car and i couldn't let her - as I had to get out and get this darned recording device!) So my daughter and her friend hopped into the car. Off to the mall while i drove off and hunted for the recorder - time ran out and i had to pick them up. I stopped at the Future Shop down the road and told them to stay in the car - i would be 8 minutes - 10 Max! So with this thing in my hand, standing behind me as the fellow described the different ones my daugther says "why are you buying that???" Geeze - I thought.... what ever happened to wait in the car???
I do have the honest policy (no way out of this one anyway - there is absolutely no reason i would otherwise need one in my life at this time) So I explained it to her. The truth - and (answering her first question "right out of the box" - it wasn't for spying on mom........ it is a protection for me just in case things get out of hand and mom did an unconscionable thing and yelled "wolf" - being the threat of hurting her - or saying that i did or might or any other version that would cause me and us a ton of grief and even morre money for Lawyers..... I told her the scoop about recordings - what is legal and not and a tape can't be used against her in a malice type of way (for the reason of being able to doctor any recording or setting up the other person to egg him/her on to do the wrong thing and then be caught on"tape".
New problem - I talked about this with her for a good while in the car and a little bit more at home. She is near 18 years old. Her words - "I am not letting you, or helping you "SSPY" on Mom!" I really do not think the truth really sunk in. She questioned the whole validity and even "the people on some divorce site" - she really did not believe in any mom doing that to a dad even if people on some divorce site writes things like that!
I admit - I was running out of time - the car with mom in it just pulled up to the house. I asked her nicely to as a favour to dad, to just not say anythiing. "Tension" and more is going through the roof right now in our house. I am worried it will escalate a thousand times - I did not expect you to come into the store - you did and that is done. Life in this house is getting worse by the day and this is not supposed to get like this but it does for lots of couples and sadly it is here too - and I can't help that.
- Tell the stbx i have this personal recording device and it will be used to record our interactions?
- am I better off to not to say a word and just leave the thing running the four hours every night and oops, we still arre sleeping in the same room so that might mean just leave the thing running - just in case anyway? (I did notice it has a power take off for ac power supply so an overnight record won't kill the batteries!
Related to the above: May be the Bigger or the Biggest issue???
(this part is a tad long - could go into the children section but...)
I had taken my youngest (actually she wanted my car and i couldn't let her - as I had to get out and get this darned recording device!) So my daughter and her friend hopped into the car. Off to the mall while i drove off and hunted for the recorder - time ran out and i had to pick them up. I stopped at the Future Shop down the road and told them to stay in the car - i would be 8 minutes - 10 Max! So with this thing in my hand, standing behind me as the fellow described the different ones my daugther says "why are you buying that???" Geeze - I thought.... what ever happened to wait in the car???
I do have the honest policy (no way out of this one anyway - there is absolutely no reason i would otherwise need one in my life at this time) So I explained it to her. The truth - and (answering her first question "right out of the box" - it wasn't for spying on mom........ it is a protection for me just in case things get out of hand and mom did an unconscionable thing and yelled "wolf" - being the threat of hurting her - or saying that i did or might or any other version that would cause me and us a ton of grief and even morre money for Lawyers..... I told her the scoop about recordings - what is legal and not and a tape can't be used against her in a malice type of way (for the reason of being able to doctor any recording or setting up the other person to egg him/her on to do the wrong thing and then be caught on"tape".
New problem - I talked about this with her for a good while in the car and a little bit more at home. She is near 18 years old. Her words - "I am not letting you, or helping you "SSPY" on Mom!" I really do not think the truth really sunk in. She questioned the whole validity and even "the people on some divorce site" - she really did not believe in any mom doing that to a dad even if people on some divorce site writes things like that!
I admit - I was running out of time - the car with mom in it just pulled up to the house. I asked her nicely to as a favour to dad, to just not say anythiing. "Tension" and more is going through the roof right now in our house. I am worried it will escalate a thousand times - I did not expect you to come into the store - you did and that is done. Life in this house is getting worse by the day and this is not supposed to get like this but it does for lots of couples and sadly it is here too - and I can't help that.
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