My 15yr old is living with his father. We have joint custody, my son stays with me EOW and I am allowed 1 midweek visit each week as per my sons "reasonable wishes" (My daughter lives with me and in turn sees the x EOW)
The midweek doesn't happen much because at 15 he'd rather be at his girl friends house with her, which I get.
A couple of weeks ago I asked my son if he would like to go to the movies with his sister and I the next night. He said sure. He told his dad and his dad flipped out saying that I have to give him multiple days written notice to have any access to him during the week and that he would let him go this time, but in the future I am not supposed to even ask my son if he wants to go with me until AFTER I get permission from the X.
Am I wrong in believing that at 15 my son is quite capable of deciding if he would like to spend time with me and asking his dad if its ok? I'm trying to avoid emailing/speaking to his father as much as possible as his response usually contains some sort of verbal abuse to me.
My lawyer advised me that I don't have to ask the x's permission, just my sons. His lawyer has advised him to not allow me any access that I didn't ask for in writing.
On top of all that my x changed my sons doctor of 14yrs without my permission and then refused to give me the doctors contact info. So I contact my lawyer, she contacts his lawyer, X tells his lawyer that my sons doctor is retiring so he had to get new one (this is false) and says he never refused me (I asked him twice in emails and got told it was none of my business). He also told his lawyer that I have been harrasing my son to come and move back in with me, which I have not. My x is a constant liar and it is sooo frustrating.
His lawyer also got a copy of the email my x sent me calling me an idiot and a stupid bitch and saying his was going to make my access to my son very difficult if I didn't get off my high horse. His lawyer justifies this by saying his client is very frustrated because I don't feel like I need his permission to see my son. That makes it ok?
I guess my question is how do I handle situations like these? Do I just be the good little girl and do whatever my X wants and allow him to continue to control me, when does the abuse stop?
The midweek doesn't happen much because at 15 he'd rather be at his girl friends house with her, which I get.
A couple of weeks ago I asked my son if he would like to go to the movies with his sister and I the next night. He said sure. He told his dad and his dad flipped out saying that I have to give him multiple days written notice to have any access to him during the week and that he would let him go this time, but in the future I am not supposed to even ask my son if he wants to go with me until AFTER I get permission from the X.
Am I wrong in believing that at 15 my son is quite capable of deciding if he would like to spend time with me and asking his dad if its ok? I'm trying to avoid emailing/speaking to his father as much as possible as his response usually contains some sort of verbal abuse to me.
My lawyer advised me that I don't have to ask the x's permission, just my sons. His lawyer has advised him to not allow me any access that I didn't ask for in writing.
On top of all that my x changed my sons doctor of 14yrs without my permission and then refused to give me the doctors contact info. So I contact my lawyer, she contacts his lawyer, X tells his lawyer that my sons doctor is retiring so he had to get new one (this is false) and says he never refused me (I asked him twice in emails and got told it was none of my business). He also told his lawyer that I have been harrasing my son to come and move back in with me, which I have not. My x is a constant liar and it is sooo frustrating.
His lawyer also got a copy of the email my x sent me calling me an idiot and a stupid bitch and saying his was going to make my access to my son very difficult if I didn't get off my high horse. His lawyer justifies this by saying his client is very frustrated because I don't feel like I need his permission to see my son. That makes it ok?
I guess my question is how do I handle situations like these? Do I just be the good little girl and do whatever my X wants and allow him to continue to control me, when does the abuse stop?
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