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Old 09-22-2021, 09:01 AM
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Default FRO: Separation Order Changes

My ex husband does not have a relationship with our kids. His choice. He said he didn’t want custody (on record) and has never exercised his rights for visitation. . We have been officially divorced since 2012.

In doing so, he felt he shouldn’t pay child support. FRO didn’t agree.
It took 8 years but they finally caught up with him and started garnishing his wages. The judge ordered it at 50% of his take home to cover back payments. I have asked repeatedly for tax info, and other things promised on the separation agreement. Dentist bills, proof of life insurance, extracurricular fees. I have never received it and everyone told me FRO won’t make any changes or help.

I know it was dumb on my part but I let it go. I truly couldn’t devote any more energy to this man. If we receive a child support payment via FrO (despite the court order he just skips out on it or moves jobs) then it’s a bonus.

FRO is now contacting me because they want to make a change on the order. Daycare expenses. My kids have been out of daycare maybe 18 months. They both attended day camps and other extracurriculars which I always paid for myself. I assume the ex is trying to find any loophole to get out of his payments. His salary has increased significantly since our separation but he won’t provide tax returns, even though the judge has asked several times. Keep in mind, he is in court due to FRO. I haven’t taken him to court at all.

My question is two fold:

1. FRO wouldn’t help me make any changes or demands to the order but all of a sudden they care about daycare status and making sure my daycare status is up to date?
2. What do I do now? Take him to court to demand all the things he has never paid for or ignored me on?

Please be honest, is this going to require a lot of paperwork on my part? My kids have dental issues. I have paid $10-15k out of pocket for my daughter (now 12yrs) in dental work since she was 3. i am cringing at the thought of gathering all the paperwork.
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